Wait. You are admitting to knowingly taking advantage of an emotionally compromised person, in order to put them into a compromised mental state, in order to have sex with them after they bluntly declared their desire to not have sex with you? And you're further saying that your knowingly taking advantage of her compromised emotional state isn't rape, despite the fact that you admit that legally and socially, it would be considered rape? ...Your logic gives me a headache.

The words matter less than the affirmitive acts to help the situation move forward towards a goal. It takes me two drink to forget that I can't dance and then suddenly I can and have a great time. Why would I assume that this isn't the case here. Especially with her making MULTIPLE affirmative acts.

I'm not sure I'd find you guilty of rape. But I would find you guilty of being a ********. Surely there are plenty of girls out there willing to declare their wish to have sex with you but you decided to shag someone who wasn't sufficiently enthusiastic about it to actually say yes? Was it worth it?

idk sounds to me like she wanted to get ****** up and had you pay for it then banged you

I'll readily admit to being a very broken human being at the time. I'll readily admit that it looks very bad from the outside. But ********? Nope. I showed you a small slice of a much larger pie. She tried to do something special for me. She tried to give me what she thought I wanted. She was willing to make herself naked for me. Nude is sexy. Naked is vulnerable. Naked is a gift. I can't really get any deeper into it than that without violating confidences.

I gathered from your description that her saying she didn't want to have sex came from some deep-seated issues about sex and her body. She could've sorted that out in time without random men taking her up on the opportunity to not not **** her, which led me to think any person exploiting those issues to get laid would be a tiny bit of a ********. But hey, maybe she got over those insecurities by way of shagging, and everyone has their ******** moments.

If I was a random guy, I'd readily admit I was a ********.

@63 It sounds to me like she wanted to have sex, but she didn't want to say that she wanted to have sex.

Yeeeah...dude, this is rape. She SAID, while sober and in control of her mind and body, that she would NOT have sex with you. She did consent to doing drugs. But doing drugs is not sex. You totally disregarded what she said while sober and used her vulnerable state while under drugs to have sex with her. It doesn't matter what you THINK she wanted--she had said no. Now afterwards, maybe she was ok with it. But if she wasn't, she can charge you with rape AND win in court. You're seriously scary, dude. I hope I never bump into you at a bar.

Why exactly shouldn't he come home drunk?

Humiliating a hypocritical idiot? How dare he!

If he thought his girlfriend was such a hypocritical idiot what was he doing dating her? I know he bought up a valid point but from her reaction I'd assume his tone was less 'hey, have you thought this through?' and more a humourless 'your stupid opinion doesn't matter', which is not usually how you treat someone you love and respect, unless you're rather immature.

It sounds like OP just posted a blunt comment on a dumb status, but you know the saying - if stupid people post stupid things, they're going to get a stupid answer.