By Aspireworks - 29/01/2013 22:46 - United States
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I agree with 31. Anyways, what does it matter what kind of condition he has? Shouldn't she accept him regardless? I mean nothing was a problem before she found out I'm sure (Hence the reason why she had no clue what her "soon to be mother-in-law" was talking about) so why would it matter now?
So young, 32. Life is very long. With bills, mortgages, GFCs, kids etc, that cute lovey-dovey phase usually mellows...sometimes sours might be more accurate. You don't want to marry yourself off to someone with a serious mood/ psychiatric disorder, gambling problem, compulsive lying etc without the chance to research and choose knowingly - or not. People usually discover worse things about their lover over the long haul. Pray it's only chewing his toe-nails.
You need to know what she's talking about ASAP! You need all the facts before marrying your fiancé and spending the rest of your life with him.
I get the feeling you're the paranoid type. Sure eventually it would be good if OP knew what said future mother-in-law meant by that but it shouldn't become an obsession either. I personally suspect the future mother-in-law wanted to create tension to break up the couple and seeing how OP posted this here, I would think it worked like a charm.
It's foolish, however there are ways it could work without. Everyone has skeletons in their closet. Even you, I suspect. Usually they're pretty insignificant by the time marriage rolls around, like a threesome in high school or you once kissed someone of the same gender on a dare. The big stuff, like personality and current lifestyle are usually what matters and those are evident long before a wedding. So why dig up past issues that don't apply anymore? If you find out after the wedding, so? You get along now. You care for each other. That should be all that matters.