By always amazed - 07/03/2016 14:03 - Canada - Barrie

Today, my dad came over and ordered me, a 43 year-old woman, to purchase a kitchen table. He and my sisters are embarassed that we are still using a plastic folding table. It doesn't matter to them that we have just spent over $30,000 on renovations. His cousins are coming from Italy. FML
I agree, your life sucks 19 195
You deserved it 3 031

Same thing different taste

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there are so many things going on here

If you're gonna spend/care that much about your house, why would you still have a plastic table?

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I don't know why people are so angry and/or confused. From what I understand, it's OP's house and dad is just being pissy because he doesn't want the Italian cousins to see it. There could be any number of things going on here. Maybe the renovations aren't finished. Maybe it's the kitchen being renovated and the table would get dinged up. Maybe they just moved in and want to get the renovations done first. Maybe the renovations weren't just an upgrade for aesthetics, but they just bought a fixer upper and money is better spent on making the house more livable than on a table. Maybe they are renovating it to raise the value before they sell it and would rather buy a table to fit the new house rather than the one they are selling. We just don't know. As far as the dad and sisters being embarrassed, it could be a big family and the OP's house is the only one that can accommodate a family dinner for that many people. We have always done big family dinners at my grandparents' house because they have an enormous house with an enormous dining room with an enormous dining room table and we still have to have a separate kid's table for the children because, even as big as the adult's table is, we're still squished in there. No one else's house would allow us all to eat in the same vicinity. The kids eat in the kitchen at the kitchen table while we eat 10 feet away at the dining room table, but anyone else's house would have us all eating in multiple rooms (that was done at my mom's house once when my grandparents were renovating their house and it was a disaster).

I'm confused as to how people can even be confused by this!

I can't even process that enough to decide if you deserved it or not

epilepticloh 20

How is this even a confirmed fml??? Lol sorry boot all your different scenarios OP

Tell him if he doesn't like your table he doesn't have to come to your house. Or, alternatively, if he doesn't like your table, he can purchase a new one for you.

It's too bad that your family is embarrassed by the type of furniture you're using. It may seem tacky, but after spending so much money on reno, if plastic does the job for the time being, then it will just have to do until the bank account is refreshed and new furniture is bought. It's good that you know your financial limits and are trying to be reasonable and responsible! Remind them that family time isn't about material items or impressing others. They're coming to spend quality time together. (Or at least, they should be. If they're coming to compare homes, be judgmental, and gloat about their wealth, then they're traveling for all the wrong reasons.) Family members should love you for who you are and be understanding about the situation, knowing the home is a work in progress.

Tell him if he wants you to have one so bad to buy it himself. Or if you want to go a more pacifist rout there is always rent a center or goodwill

Couldn't you just buy a nice table cloth, which will cover the table? If it's covered no one would know what it's made of. Plus, if it bothers your family members so much, A) have them buy you one or B) Tell them to have the family get together ( I imagine that's why the OP mentioned the visiting family) at one of their places or even better... Have it at a restaurant where everyone just sits, eats and relaxes

That's when you tell him to **** off and have dinner with his cousins at his own damn house, instead of expecting you to spend more money on things you don't necessarily need just to make HIS life more convenient.

If you bought it, you're enabling that kind of behavior. I hope you told him to stick it, though.