By hannieannie - 09/02/2016 21:51 - United Kingdom - Oxford
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Sooo... masturbate? As long as this doesn't happen all the time it doesn't seem like an issue to me.
Damn. Just lay in bed next to him and masturbate, I guess. If he says he wants to get involved and sexual that night, tell him no, because you're all tired now from masturbating.
@30 You are correct in saying doing that wouldn't hurt him but it still would be extremely childish thing for her to do. Especially since the guy most likely didn't do this to purposely upset OP. He probably had free time today for whatever reason so he decided to use it to masturbate. Revenge is a relationship is never good. Unless it is in good humor like if you decide to pelt your bf with water balloons because he threw you in the pool.
The point is that OP's BF shouldn't be jacking off so much because she clearly wants to have sex with him at the end of the day. Maybe one session, but no more than that. He's at fault. I would do the same thing to him. It's not fair to me that he can pleasure himself all day, but as soon as I pleasure myself, I'm wrong and immature.
First of all maybe op's boyfriend didn't know she wanted to have sex, maybe she just came home and said ok let's do it or something like that. However the boyfriend has every right to jerk off and so what if the guy saids no once or a few times it does not matter girls usually deny sex all the time to guys, so if it happens once or twice or three times who cares.
Regardless. I wouldn't be okay with that. I would masturbate, and next time he wants sex after a day at work "sorry I'm too tired". Although I've never denied sex from a boyfriend. Not even once. So... It also depends how long they've been together. There's usually a pattern with sex.
It's not really in an act of revenge. She clearly was already aroused and ready to go. With his rejection, her only other choice is to masterbate. Masterbaiting in front of him would be an outlet, probably a bit of a turn on for her, and also serve a point. It's not like she's doing it ONLY to get back at him. It's just one part of the process. Of course, if this was the first time he's done this then I see no reason to reject him if he's suddenly hot and bothered by watching her. Problem solved, he just needed some extra warming up. But if this is a continual problem? Then it certainly would make a statement.
87. Okay I agree with what you say but still you understand what I mean sometimes the guy is just tired and doesn't want to have sex contrary to popular belief it does happen to every guy pretty much. Op shouldn't think too much about especially if this is like the first or second she has nothing to worry about.
Yes, sometimes guys are just tired and not in the mood. So how come us women get ripped when we're too tired and not in the mood? I think I have denied my husband sex only a few times since we've been together and it was only because morning sickness from my pregnancy had gotten the better of me when I woke up. It's a two way street, she may deny him if she 'doesn't feel like it'. He is not entitled to her body just as she is not entitled to his.
91, I agree with you. If women don't feel like having sex okay I understand, personally for me I would completely understand I would just ask for a reason and then see if I could make my partner feel better. In addition not every girl and let me put this not every girl but some do deny sex way more than a normal person should. In my opinion a normal person who is an a steady relationship above 18 and in a relationship for at least a yr should be having sex once a week. If you want more well then you want more
You would think a guy who spent the whole day jerking off would be able to go at least one more time, sorry OP