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Wow she just picked the perfect freaking time to tell you that... Sorry you have to go through this right before your wedding, OP.
I don't know.. I mean on tv and in songs this is one of the most romantic plot lines. Think of Friends when Rachael tries to tell Ross she likes him before he weds Emily, or Taylor Swift's 'Speak Now,' I reckon the friend just wanted to let her friend know before she got married, it is quite possibe she wasn't expecting anything to happen. But it is a horrible situation for OP to be in.
Except Rachael realises how selfish it would be of her and ends up not telling Ross, deciding that his happiness is what matters most. It's sad that such a self-serving and careless act has been so romanticised. If they truly loved them, they wouldn't put them in such an awkward situation while also risking their friendship.
I guess I wouldn't mind if they said 'I'm not expecting anything to happen but I want to let you know, for the sake of honesty, that I really valued you and have been in love with you a long time. I know you have a fiancee and nothing will ever happen, but you are my best friend and I want to be honest about it. I am really happy for you though.'
She's expressing her feelings, don't shut her out, she is your friend after all, just let her know Nicely that being friends is ok just nothing more
2 4 6 8 don't assume they are straight! Seriously. And congrats on the marriage OP, and i hope your bridesmaid doesn't cause any drama during the actual wedding. EDIT: this went to the wrong commentor, it was supposed to go to the one below who said something about "OP is straight, friend obviously gay. Awkward indeed."
hopefully she respects your decision and if you tell your bride or not , the bridesmaid doesn't bother you again in that sense , i feel bad for all three of you, sticky situation
Loving all the down votes I'm getting. If someone knows how to delete posts on mobile, you're more than welcome to inform me, otherwise just fuck off honestly. My corrected statement isn't wrong, so if you really have a problem with me running out of time to edit a comment you can, in the words of Duke Nukem, "Eat shit and die", like hot damn you're all fickle.
That sucks. My best friend since second grade told me she was in love with me when we were seniors in highschool. It was never the same after that. And we are no longer friends. I feel sorry for you and I kinda feel bad for your friend who has to watch you marry someone else.
I don't see how the friend was being selfish. At least she didn't wait until the actual wedding day. Now then, that would have been selfish. People are always told that if they love someone, to tell them before it's too late. And that's all she did.
I think telling a friend, or anyone for that matter, who is happily in a relationship, is 100% selfish. What do you hope to gain? You risk complicating a happy relationship, you make your own friendship awkward, and then what? Most likely, they aren't going to leave someone they already love for you.. It just seems like a bad time for everybody involved. It's best to just try to move on. Of course there are exceptions to this, and it's easier said than done, but this is just my opinion.
Conveying their feelings and asking OP to leave their S.O would've been selfish! But we don't know what exactly happened. Maybe she just wanted OP to know about her feelings. That's all. Sometimes when you love someone, you let them be. Conveying your feelings is not selfish at all! If you expect something out of it, then yes, it's selfish. Why do people have to jump to conclusions?! Smh