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By Mimo - / Thursday 23 June 2016 10:18 / Egypt
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  interesting33  |  33

I don't know.. I mean on tv and in songs this is one of the most romantic plot lines. Think of Friends when Rachael tries to tell Ross she likes him before he weds Emily, or Taylor Swift's 'Speak Now,' I reckon the friend just wanted to let her friend know before she got married, it is quite possibe she wasn't expecting anything to happen. But it is a horrible situation for OP to be in.

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  Justy101  |  23

Except Rachael realises how selfish it would be of her and ends up not telling Ross, deciding that his happiness is what matters most. It's sad that such a self-serving and careless act has been so romanticised. If they truly loved them, they wouldn't put them in such an awkward situation while also risking their friendship.

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  interesting33  |  33

I guess I wouldn't mind if they said 'I'm not expecting anything to happen but I want to let you know, for the sake of honesty, that I really valued you and have been in love with you a long time. I know you have a fiancee and nothing will ever happen, but you are my best friend and I want to be honest about it. I am really happy for you though.'

By  Lizza330  |  28

That's incredibly selfish of her to do that to you. Maybe have a talk with her and try to move past it. Because ignoring it will just make it more awkward when you're trying to get married and she's right there.

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  ChiefKoala  |  29

2 4 6 8 don't assume they are straight! Seriously. And congrats on the marriage OP, and i hope your bridesmaid doesn't cause any drama during the actual wedding. EDIT: this went to the wrong commentor, it was supposed to go to the one below who said something about "OP is straight, friend obviously gay. Awkward indeed."

By  604  |  11

If you play your cards right, you could have one hell of a time consummating your marriage ;)

By  ronbach  |  8

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

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  Why_The_Fuq  |  11

Or OP could be a gay man, and friend could be straight

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  Vengenz0  |  4

Well, if you look closely, the OP has a female indicator and they post said, "she". I'm no genius, but I think the friend is gay or bisexual. Also, I thought only females have bridesmaids?

By  Adam_Power58  |  16

hopefully she respects your decision and if you tell your bride or not , the bridesmaid doesn't bother you again in that sense , i feel bad for all three of you, sticky situation

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  ABlindMan  |  17

Maybe you're not a good comprehensive reader. OP's best friend is either bi or lesbian. OP is currently marrying a male, so they are either a gay/bi male with a bi/lesbian best friend.

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  ABlindMan  |  17

I wrote this completely wrong as well and ran out of time to edit it >_<. Op is either a gay/bi male or a straight/bi female with a bi/lesbian best friend.

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  ABlindMan  |  17

Loving all the down votes I'm getting. If someone knows how to delete posts on mobile, you're more than welcome to inform me, otherwise just fuck off honestly. My corrected statement isn't wrong, so if you really have a problem with me running out of time to edit a comment you can, in the words of Duke Nukem, "Eat shit and die", like hot damn you're all fickle.

By  atomicxsarah  |  16

That sucks. My best friend since second grade told me she was in love with me when we were seniors in highschool. It was never the same after that. And we are no longer friends. I feel sorry for you and I kinda feel bad for your friend who has to watch you marry someone else.

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  PapiiChuloo  |  4

Man that has to suck. Ive had that happen to me multiple times with either me being the one that expressed my feelings or her and its ruined so many good friendships. Now i never really tell a girl that i like her anymore.

By  Tiamod  |  5

I don't see how the friend was being selfish. At least she didn't wait until the actual wedding day. Now then, that would have been selfish. People are always told that if they love someone, to tell them before it's too late. And that's all she did.

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I think telling a friend, or anyone for that matter, who is happily in a relationship, is 100% selfish. What do you hope to gain? You risk complicating a happy relationship, you make your own friendship awkward, and then what? Most likely, they aren't going to leave someone they already love for you.. It just seems like a bad time for everybody involved. It's best to just try to move on. Of course there are exceptions to this, and it's easier said than done, but this is just my opinion.

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  DestinyNiya  |  30

Conveying their feelings and asking OP to leave their S.O would've been selfish! But we don't know what exactly happened. Maybe she just wanted OP to know about her feelings. That's all. Sometimes when you love someone, you let them be. Conveying your feelings is not selfish at all! If you expect something out of it, then yes, it's selfish. Why do people have to jump to conclusions?! Smh

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