By BadGoldDigger - 26/05/2015 12:18 - United States
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OP here! The below is going to be pretty tl;dr, so I apologize! :P This has been an ongoing issue ever since we started the house buying process, though I'm pretty sure she has never really like me . I guess she didn't feel threatened until my fiance and I were going to have something legally tying us together. Aaaaand the reason why I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me is because I'm Asian(well, half, so I guess I'm not white enough for her...?) She made a comment when my fiance and I tried dating in high school and broke up about being glad she's not going to have any Asian grand babies. ANYWAYS. He came home from his parents' house pissed as usual because both his parents are super negative. Fortunately, his dad seems to like me, but picks at everything my fiance does. His mom kept asking him questions like, "Are you really happy with her?" "Does she make you happy?" She had asked him where I was at and he told her I was out with friends and she had the audacity to suggest I was cheating on him. Her reasoning, "your dad and I don't see our friends very often." Never mind the fact that my fiance hangs out with his friends until 2AM just about every Saturday night doing nerd things. But I'm not allowed to have friends, apparently. She even took his sarcasm seriously when he told her he was going to have to buy me a nice sink for the kitchen. It has been like that every time he goes to see them(he doesn't wonder why I don't want to go over there) so it has gotten to the point he is going to basically tell them to (nicely) fuck off or he's going to stop visiting until they can play nice. Irony is, his grandma from his dad's side used to treat his mom like dirt for the longest time. So unless it's a family tradition, you would think she would understand. Good thing for my fiance is that both my parents adore him and are really supportive of the both of us. I know it's because they both came from families that had a hard time accepting the other.
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Best decision I made was buy a house. The younger you are when you buy the better.
Best to buy when you're young, instead of giving your money away to someone else by renting for 20 years. Build equity. My husband and I bought our house when I was 24 for $176K. Five years later, when I divorced him, I bought him out at a market value of $350K. And now five years later again, the house is worth $475K, and I'd have about $300K in my pocket if I sold it right now. If I was renting, I'd probably still have spent as much as I have now on rent vs mortgage, but you don't build equity.
#50: Huh? #42 said they bought their ex out for the house at what was the fair market value at the time, which was far more than the two of them had paid for it originally. How is that "mindlessly taking advantage of unfavorable laws" or screwing someone in a divorce?
Thanks #67. #50, how did I take advantage of him? I paid out his half of the house at current market value, even though I paid the entire down payment, and half of the mortgage payments for five years. Pretty sure that's how it's supposed to work, split assets and debt down the middle, so each party gets an equal share. Fuck, I even split our DVD collection 50/50.
Ignore her and buy the house anyway. If she keeps haranguing you, don't invite her to the housewarming.