Today, my aunt informed me that my dad thinks my boyfriend is a loser deadbeat because he hasn't proposed to me after two years of dating and co-habitation. He hasn't asked because I already made it very clear I have no interest in marriage. FML
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Today, my boyfriend bought me a ring for my birthday. My dad now refuses to talk to me, because he thinks I'm engaged. My boyfriend thinks it's funny, because he'd never marry me. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he likes to do things the old-fashioned way, and that he wouldn't propose to me without my father's blessing. My dad died 3 years ago, and he knows it. FML
Today, my boyfriend asked my father for permission to marry me. My father refused, on the basis that I'm the only person in the house with a job, and if I leave he will have to start looking for work. My boyfriend won't marry me without his permission, and my lazy father won't change his mind. FML
Today, I happily told my parents that my boyfriend proposed to me last night. My dad's response? "Marry that goofy bastard and you're out of the will." FML
Today, my girlfriend rejected my proposal, claiming she refuses to get married until she finally finds her dad, so he can walk her down the aisle. Babe, he walked out when you were 7 and hasn't been seen or contacted you since. Just say you don't wanna marry me so we can both move on. FML
Today, my dad is refusing to let me marry my fiancé because he said no when my dad asked for a loan of £10,000 to help clear some gambling debts. Apparently that shows my fiancé has poor family values and will be a bad father and an alcoholic husband. Impressive logical thinking there. FML
Today, I proposed to my girlfriend at a dinner with our two families. Not only did she flatly reject me, my dad said, "Good call. He's not ready." FML
Today, my boyfriend went to ask my dad for my hand in marriage. All I could make out from the door was mumbling, until profanities started flying. My boyfriend shouted "well she's a SINGLE bitch now!" and stormed out of the house. My dad still refuses to tell me what happened in there. FML
Today, I introduced my boyfriend to my parents for the first time. My dad took one look at him, sighed and said, "You deserve someone better. Someone who is responsible, and has their priorities straight in life." Beyond upset, I told my dad that I love him. My dad disgruntledly responded, "I was talking to him." FML
Today, my boyfriend asked me to marry him. When I happily told my dad, he kept asking if I'd consider taking back my ex. FML
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wildbynature 13
Maybe try talking to your dad about it. Explain that you don't actually want to get married
walid820014 20
Tell him your opinion. He will shut the **** up.
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unholyswiss 19
I'm the same way, OP. Have been with my current bf for almost 2 1/2 years and made it very clear, probably in the first month we started dating that I have no interest in marriage. He asked me about it again a few months ago and what I would do if he proposed, and I said I'd probably decline no matter the setting/circumstances. It worries me slightly because I don't want my inevitable refusal to be the end of our relationship. In your dad's case however, if you explain your reasons he'll leave you and your boyfriend be, especially if you already have a healthy relationship. Good luck!
ChopSuey444 20
That's a shame that your boyfriend is interested in marriage but you aren't, it would be very sad to have to end a good relationship over that. Your situation is harder to deal with than OP's.
salvorican 24
I'm just really curious... But why don't you want to get married?
FSGInsainity 15
#70 Marriage is a load of B.S. It is a huge waste of money for a slip of paper that says, "Congradualtions, you're married". The only good thing it brings is lower taxes.
Zebediabolical 43
If you're together long enough for common law, you can jointly file in many jurisdictions. The only reason I'd ever consider getting married right now is to fast-track my Canadian Citizenship application.
Denise1988 13
Marriage is one of the biggest commitments you can make, it's not just a piece of paper. People are more likely to work through their problems if they're married vs just living together. It also gives you legal rights when it comes to medical decisions regarding your spouse. And before anyone says "50% divorce rate" I'd like to point out that the highest divorce rate was in the 1970's and it's been on the decline since. If current trends continue, 2/3 of marriages will be successful.
Timmip12 9
Nobody said marriage had to be a big deal... If it's not to you then it doesn't have to be a 30000$ wedding, but it sucks that some people aren't willing to compromise with their bf/gf
queerdragon 20
But a lot of people don't feel the need to be in a marriage to prove their dedication. Some people work better knowing they can just walk away, takes all the pressure off the relationship.
DoomedGemini 37
It's simple: choosing to marry is fine, big or small event. Choosing to not marry is also fine. When it conflicts that can be hard. Though it can't be said enough: DONT go into a relationship expecting them to change a life decision. If they do, great, but it's wrong to expect them to change to fit your decision or try to push them to. Compromise is good, but some won't want to. This applies to many things. I don't know if that's what happened here with the boyfriend expecting her to change or what but just putting it out there.
laurellkawes 31
Maybe you should tell your family that. If you've never said anything to your family, they're left with nothing but to assume things
sophzxc 15
Whether your dad knows about your intentions or not, it was very mean of him to say that so perhaps a long talk with him will sort it out because I wouldn't want my own father calling my boyfriend a deadbeat boyfriend just because he hasn't proposed due to my own intentions or desires.
takeittoem 8
Stick up for your boyfriend: talk to your Dad and tell him why your "deadbeat boyfriend" hasn't proposed.
TeasinDaNoobs 16
I know its your choice, but doesn't i seem like you're wasting your BF's time if he wants to eventually be married with someone
mariri9206 32
Marriage is literally just a piece of paper. Some people actually feel more like a husband/wife and more committed to each other without that piece of paper and feel they don't need it.
TheMathMajor 26
well, not literally just a piece of paper, you also get legal benefits from being married
TheRussianNavy 11
How stupid are you?
Mahcookiez 15
Marriage isn't always just a paper, it depends on certain things, it also depends on who you ask
Denise1988 13
No, it's not just a piece of paper. It's a vow of commitment. If you're not wed, then you are not committed 100%. People are more likely fro work through hurdles if they're married.
Mahcookiez 15
83, what about religion involves in marriage people who believe that marriage is the joining of two people to become one. Dont you think they might think its more than a piece of paper?
TheNewGuy03 28
I think the blame is on you if you haven't told your dad about your own intentions yet.
sunflower_seal 17
Have you told your family that? Not that it's any of their business. But if it strains your relationship with family or boyfriend maybe worth mentioning. Either way what only matters of what you think. Your boyfriend respects your wishes , that's a good quality.
guttedbrit 26
I dislike the fact that people think less of people because they're not planning on getting engaged or married. if you're happy, then you're happy! some people just aren't interested. I hope your dad understands once you tell him the truth.
swimthenread27 19
If you haven't let your dad know that you're not interested in marriage and are allowing your boyfriend to take the blame, you deserve it.
dafluckster 6
If you've been together that long and are willing to live with him, why not consider marriage? What's wrong with that??
marcranger 28
Oh, let's see. There's the expense if you eventually get divorced. There's the pressure on women to change their names even when they have very good reasons for not wanting to. There's the pressure to have a big wedding which leads to huge costs up front even if neither member of the couple wants one. There's the fact that for some of us, it's impossible to overlook marriage's origins as a religiously endorsed way of oppressing women. Obviously this is a totally subjective list and marriage means something different and better to a lot of people, and more power to those that are into it, but those are a few reasons I personally refuse to get married.
Denise1988 13
I think the expense of getting divorced leads to couples trying to salvage their relationships more than if they were just dating. If you're dating you can just pick up the phone and end it whenever you want. I'm an atheist and we paid $65 each for a courthouse wedding. I didn't change my name until we had our first son, it felt more like a family.