By YouAREthefather - 18/03/2010 16:48 - United States
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doesnt mean its HIS. you can date an already preggo chic.....
even if it's not his it's still hard to look at that... that would mean he's already real committed to the new chick if he's helping her pick out baby clothes
well you see 86, even when you do use protection, such as the pill or condoms, you can still get pregnant. there are way more foster kids than families for them and even if they do get adopted the system fails 80% of the time. and if you're not wanting the kid or can't support it, I feel way worse for the kid that is brought into the world than the one that is killed before it's concious and gets to go back to God where he sends it to another family. I hate people that bitch about abortion but don't see further than the "murder" asspect. it's a quality of life dilema, not a moral one.
What do you define as death? For me it is when there is no electrical activity in your heart (aka flatline). The beginning of life should be the opposite of death, when the heart starts beating. Calling people who get abortions murderers is just plane stupid. It would be worse to have a kid and give them up for adoption then to get an abortion. Its better to have never been born then to suffer all your life. I have heard many pro lifers say "it has the potential to become alive", so what, each egg in a woman has the potential to become a baby.
sometimes just because someone adopts you doesn't mean that your going to live a good life. the system fails to always send ppl to good familys.. some ppl put up fronts, not all adoptive patents have good intentions. my husband was adopted and his mother had him sleep outside while her dogs were in the house.. among other things. and I've witnessed myself some of these things. so sometimes abortion may be a better choice as sad as that is to say.
it's not the child's fault the parents made the mistake! why should they die ? g God knew that baby before it was formed in the womb. He wanted that baby to be born to that mother even if it didn't live with that family. adoption is a blessing for many unfortunate couples who can't even concieve a child.. why is it fair to you that people every day are killing their babies when they are physically incapable of having their own? and with rape, it's hard, I know for sure of that. but the child is still half of her.. the innocent child is already getting physically and emotionally attatched to it's mother.. rape is horrible.. but think about the pain the child feels?
@99 Are you seriously saying that giving a child up for adoption is worse than abortion!? I've got an adopted son and I can tell you that it is not. I'm pro-choice but personally don't believe abortion should be used as birth control. If it's not rape or incest, adoption is the better way. But I respect the woman's right to make their own choice. I'm also thankful and blessed to be able to provide for a child that someone else was not able to. And in-case anyone is questioning, I have other children naturally, so it wasn't an issue of being unable to have children. There was a need and we were able to help. My child is having a wonderful life because someone was able to see beyond them self and do what's right for the child.
gosh guys. yes, the child is safe to a home. the hospital takes much better care of the child than the parents. and all over America there are couples looking for a baby. I know people in my little city of 6000 who want one. being adopted doesn't mean messed up life! where the heck do you get that from? it's rare. for one, adoption and raising a child isn't cheap. a family should be able to afford it. don't start throwing at me that I don't think they can't be happy without a higher income family, but yea, it does help. my best friend is adopted. his mom couldn't raise him on her own since she was too young. now he is older and gets to see his mother once in a while and is very happy. my aunt was forced to put up her daughter for adoption. she regularily sees her now, and is also happy. a friend of mine took in a foster girl, fell in love and adopted her. her real mother was an unfit mother. my cousin was adopted by my uncle do to an unfit mother. I'm totally glad these people weren't aborted. their mothers considered it. it's a beautiful thing seeing that they got a chance to experience life. and to you who called or "asked if I was" stupid, that's totally rude. just because I believe different than you does NOT make me stupid. I understand being pro choice, and everyones story is different. I know people who have gotten abortions and they do feel sad thinking about their child and wonder what they were like. basically, abortion isn't for me. I don't judge when others do. I'm VERY much against the narrow minded people who have picket signs and terrifying images of aborted fetuses. it's sick of them to put that out there and it's just as wrong to me as abortion itself. I don't like being judged or called stupid. the end.
ps I would like to add that I am FOR keeping abortion LEGAL, because if women can't go to a clinic, they will find much worse ways to rid of the child, which is VERY harmful to the mother as well. sometimes fatal. please don't think I'm not concerned for the mothers health and well being as well..
Abortion should be legal. As 124 said, the women will and do find another, often fatal way. My grandmother died getting a backstreet abortion in the 1960s, and thanks to the law at the time, she died. She was only 19, and I've never met my grandmother due to this. If abortion had been legal, do you think she really would have died? It's highly unlikely, and the fact is, Abortion is not a privilege, it's a right. It's not murder until 12 weeks in my opinion. Whereas the governments opinion is 24 weeks, for me, the child is too humanoid shaped.
Unless u wanted to have a kid with him and stuff, I don't see the fml.
1) I love your username. 2) More importantly, if he was cheating on you, why would you wanna be with him anyway?
Cuz guys who cheat are hot! There are tons of loser guys out there that can't even get one girl. Quite a few of us who can get one, and then there are those who are so damn hot that girls will grudgingly share him with others. You want security? Date a loser. You used to be safe with nerds, but now nerds are becoming sexy, so you may have to look in another pool;)
seahorses4eva, I can't decide which meaning from Urban Dictionary applies to you. I'd like to think it's the woman who likes to be on top, but my second guess the act of a very drunk man peeing in a woman's vagina in a failed attempt at sex. Cheaters may lie, but it is because they have to in order to follow their genetic imperative. This wouldn't happen if polygamy were legal.
i dont think its that bizzarre. if hes in a relationship where he genuinely cares about a girl, and it isnt his then she could be going through alot as a single parent and hes being there for her as a responsible partner. if it is his, then again...at least hes being responsible. i'm sure its hard to see but he's not doing anything wrong or rubbing it in the OP's face or going out of his way to have her know about the child.