Yeah, thing is....it says OP is from England. They're allowed to drink at age 18 over there. So I fail to see why she's fussing about turning 21, unless there's some mysterious coming-of-age thing that happens at that age in Britain. She's been able to drink for 3 years. That being considered, it makes me think the OP is being a selfish little rag. Neither birthday celebrations nor baby showers last an entire 24 hours, it won't kill her to take just a few minutes to acknowledge the baby shower before going on her merry way.

Exactly. Hell, my cousin's wedding is the day after my father's birthday. But is my dad going to throw a shit fit because of it? Of course not. I'm sure my father would love to be doing something other than driving all the way out to Illinois on his birthday to be there for the wedding the next day. But he loves and respects his brother, so he's going to be there for his nephew's wedding. People these days are so immature. Insert eye-roll here.

Also, add in the fact that the invitation was an email. Lots of people set up mailing lists that send an email automatically to each person on the list. My guess is that the cousin just picked all the family and close friends in her email address list and sent it off. Hell, I do it all the time and then later realize "oh, yeah, so-and-so was on that list and they're really far away/otherwise occupied and I already know they won't come. oops. oh well."

Oh my gosh, because like, everyone should totally plan shit around you, right? The convenience of their own lives and schedules doesn't matter as long as you're the one in the spotlight. How dare a family member get married around your birthday! They should put everything on hold and kiss your right foot because you got a year older! Because let's face it, their happiness matters little when confronted with the fact that you're just that special and deserving of all the attention. Grow up. And many people host their own baby showers, wedding showers, even birthday parties. They invite their friends. Derp.

I'm pretty sure a wedding is far more important than your ******* birthday. My wedding is the same day as my future father-in-law's birthday, but does he give a shit? No. The only reason I said it sucks for OP was because it's a goddamn baby shower - not exactly a life changing/altering event. You just sound like a whiny little shit.