Today, I found out why my boyfriend of 5 years won't propose/marry me. He would rather wait for his estranged wife to meet someone, fall in love, decide to get married, and do the filing herself. He doesn't want to pay the couple of hundred dollars for the uncontested divorce filing. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my boyfriend of 3 years proposed without a ring. He told me he would get it once his divorce papers are final. I didn't know he was married. FML
Today, my boyfriend is 34 years-old. We’ve been together for 5 years. He refuses to propose to me because “marriage is expensive” and “kids drain your wallet.” That would be understandable if he hasn’t spent the majority of his paychecks on March Madness. FML
Today, my boyfriend admitted he didn't want to marry me, not because he doesn't want to spend his life with me, but because he'd seen two friends get ruined by divorce settlements, and he "doesn't want my hooks in him." I love him with all my heart and would never dream of pulling a marriage con. FML
Today, my boyfriend of 3 years announced that he is not ready for marriage, and won’t be for 'at least' another 2 years. Of course he waited to tell me this 2 days after he had proposed to me in front of hundreds of people, I said yes, and we announced it to all our family members and friends. FML
Today, I found out my ex just got engaged to a girl he met 3 months ago, shortly before he ended our 5 year relationship. His reason for breaking up was that he didn't believe in marriage and couldn't be with someone who wanted to get married. Right. FML
Today, my boyfriend of 5 years said that he wants to marry and spend his life with me. But first he wants to go be wild and single for a few years before settling down. Not only does he not see a problem with this, he expects me to wait and be faithful to him while he “gets it out of his system”. FML
Today, my boyfriend called me explaining that he is getting married this weekend to a woman he met on Craigslist. Why? Because I won't marry him, and he'll make an extra thousand dollars per month having a wife since he is in the army. FML
Today, my boyfriend of several years told me the only way he’d ever consider getting married was if we had no wedding, just signing the paper at the courthouse with no ceremony or guests whatsoever, and as long as we don’t tell anyone about it. He doesn’t get why I’m devastated. FML
Today, my girlfriend rejected my proposal, claiming she refuses to get married until she finally finds her dad, so he can walk her down the aisle. Babe, he walked out when you were 7 and hasn't been seen or contacted you since. Just say you don't wanna marry me so we can both move on. FML
Today, my long-term boyfriend still does not want to get married and file our taxes jointly, but rather wants to claim me as a “dependent” so he gets a bigger refund. FML
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Top comments
jentrynicole 20
You didn't think it was odd that your boyfriend has been married for the 5 years you've been together and hasn't even tried to get divorced?
Magnoxidans 19
You have to wonder if he really loves you that much or if he's committed if such an arbitrary amount of money is stopping him from moving on...
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Comments (34)
aminehs 10
Sounds like a keep to me..
juuuliaaa_fml 28
If he cheated on his wife for so long, he will do the same to you.
zaidthunder1 27
There are lazy people and then there are lazy people.
beantownchivette 8
And the fact that he's still married thing wasn't a red flag?!? Sounds like he's not worth any more time and aggravation
trucker2 33
Some church's must give approval for a divorce, depends on religion...
betweenwinds 18
While that's true, the boyfriend isn't waffling about because he wants the church to annul the marriage. He's doing it because he's too cheap to pay the fee to get divorced.
writergirl1029 17
Never date someone who is still married, even if they say their marriage is "over". The divorce has to be final.
gracehi 33
I started dating a new boyfriend before my divorce was finalized. He's my husband now. Not everyone who starts dating before their divorce is finalized is avoiding commitment to a new person.
Sandman0351 13
Do these people not hear themselves??? Look, just because someone loves someone else doesn't mean they'll throw money away if they don't have to. Money isn't love. If OP loved and cared for her boyfriend then she'll wait. Just because you love someone no matter how much..Doesn't mean you should spend money all the time. I keep seeing comments about "if they love you then he would've done it" Not true. For a divorce its a lot harder financially on a guy than the woman. Especially if there's a kid or more involved. Thanks. Good day bitches I'm out.
CaptMacLeod 45
Jeez. When my ex and I split, we didn't bother getting divorced, as everything was amiable between us. As I had no plans to get remarried, this worked out fine. The moment I decided to propose to the woman I'd been dating, I began the process. Your boyfriend needs to realize that you are more important than a couple-hundred bucks!
GamerMom392 19
Since they've taken away the "you deserve it" option, YOU DESERVE IT. Even assuming you didn't know he was still married, five years go by, and you don't question what he's waiting for? And if you did know, shame on you for dating a married man!
Catdragon 40
As an Ashley, I feel for you. But really, 5 whole years went by? Surely you would have met some of his friends/family and they would have known about it.