Today, I found out why my boyfriend of 5 years won't propose/marry me. He would rather wait for his estranged wife to meet someone, fall in love, decide to get married, and do the filing herself. He doesn't want to pay the couple of hundred dollars for the uncontested divorce filing. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my boyfriend of 3 years proposed without a ring. He told me he would get it once his divorce papers are final. I didn't know he was married. FML
Today, my boyfriend is 34 years-old. We’ve been together for 5 years. He refuses to propose to me because “marriage is expensive” and “kids drain your wallet.” That would be understandable if he hasn’t spent the majority of his paychecks on March Madness. FML
Today, my boyfriend admitted he didn't want to marry me, not because he doesn't want to spend his life with me, but because he'd seen two friends get ruined by divorce settlements, and he "doesn't want my hooks in him." I love him with all my heart and would never dream of pulling a marriage con. FML
Today, my boyfriend of 3 years announced that he is not ready for marriage, and won’t be for 'at least' another 2 years. Of course he waited to tell me this 2 days after he had proposed to me in front of hundreds of people, I said yes, and we announced it to all our family members and friends. FML
Today, I found out my ex just got engaged to a girl he met 3 months ago, shortly before he ended our 5 year relationship. His reason for breaking up was that he didn't believe in marriage and couldn't be with someone who wanted to get married. Right. FML
Today, my boyfriend of 5 years said that he wants to marry and spend his life with me. But first he wants to go be wild and single for a few years before settling down. Not only does he not see a problem with this, he expects me to wait and be faithful to him while he “gets it out of his system”. FML
Today, my boyfriend called me explaining that he is getting married this weekend to a woman he met on Craigslist. Why? Because I won't marry him, and he'll make an extra thousand dollars per month having a wife since he is in the army. FML
Today, my boyfriend of several years told me the only way he’d ever consider getting married was if we had no wedding, just signing the paper at the courthouse with no ceremony or guests whatsoever, and as long as we don’t tell anyone about it. He doesn’t get why I’m devastated. FML
Today, my girlfriend rejected my proposal, claiming she refuses to get married until she finally finds her dad, so he can walk her down the aisle. Babe, he walked out when you were 7 and hasn't been seen or contacted you since. Just say you don't wanna marry me so we can both move on. FML
Today, my long-term boyfriend still does not want to get married and file our taxes jointly, but rather wants to claim me as a “dependent” so he gets a bigger refund. FML
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jentrynicole 20
You didn't think it was odd that your boyfriend has been married for the 5 years you've been together and hasn't even tried to get divorced?
Magnoxidans 19
You have to wonder if he really loves you that much or if he's committed if such an arbitrary amount of money is stopping him from moving on...
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Comments (34)
moo77_fml 20
Tell him take a hike to loserville!!! Tight wod
gracehi 33
If it's that important to you, you should pay... for a one way ticket out of that dead end relationship. The price? The time you'll spend finding, handling, and bagging dog poop, then leaving it on his front porch, lighting it on fire, ringing his doorbell, and running away. But wait! There's more! A free evening of wine and ice cream courtesy of your closest female friend.
Twisted_Angel 17
Thats a lame excuse. The truth is, he doesn't want to marry you. If he did, he would have filed a long time ago, and wouldn't be waiting for her to do it.
honestjane 22
In a lot of relationships, one person is always reaching and the other one is always settling. Unfortunately he seems to be the one settling (for you). It's one thing to be reluctant to get married, it's another level entirely to be reluctant to divorce someone when you haven't been together for years.
URBeingLied2 23
Oh honey
ManicGypsy 22
Can you afford to pay for it? If I were in your situation, I'd offer to pay it for him (if I had the funds) and see what his reaction is. If he seems very hesitant, perhaps that's a sign that something else is wrong (or he just doesn't want you supporting him).
StarkWolf_fml 23
in his defense, divorce are expensive
embarass 14
I'm sure after five years he'd have way more than enough to file a divorce. Did you know he was married this whole time?
sighlifeman 12
you.. you sound like a homewrecker..
dafluckster 6
So, maybe don't start a relationship with someone who's married? Just saying.
gracehi 33
I started dating my current husband while I was still legally married to me ex husband. We were separated and the marriage was over in every way but on paper. The difference is that I got divorced as quickly as I could and, because he defaulted on the paperwork, it was delayed a few weeks but ultimately was done in a few months and went much faster than a contested divorce. You don't know OP's situation. For all you know, he could have been lying to get for the last five years, maybe telling her he was fighting a long, bitter divorce battle with his wife. She did, after all, day she just found out the truth. Who knows what he's been telling her, or not telling her, for the past five years. There's nothing wrong with dating someone in the process of divorce. It can take a long time and something as trivial as paperwork is no reason to move on with your life if the relationship is over.
DanielleinDC 34
Same here, except I've never gotten remarried. I'd been served with the separation papers, and I was just waiting for when we'd have our court date. Which he ****** up by not bringing a witness as he was supposed to. So we had another hearing two months later and it was finalized. But I've been dating my boyfriend since before our divorce was final.