By SwinginSolo - 26/03/2013 12:07 - United States
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33, He sounds incredibly controlling. Swinging is when both partners are allowed to have sex with other people and they set ground rules. Therefore no one gets hurt. The husband wants to cheat on OP, tell her he's going to, but if she even looks at a guy she would want to have sex with, she's already been threatened to be killed, along with that guy. OP, I don't believe in divorce unless it is something so horrific that that's the only option, that's safe enough for someone. I think you should strongly think about it.
I completely agree #42.. He's nutty putty to the T. I only mentioned what I did, because, what you say is how it's suppose to be, and I believe OP and her crazy husband should have gotten into more depth about what they were planning, taken it seriously, and responsibly. OP probably didn't think her husband was gunna go psycho though.. Asshole definitely had ulterior motives
3- I don't see how who the other person is he wants to fuck is overly relevant when you consider he threatened Op with Death in regards to it. :p Like, seriously? Death threats in a relationship? It's as bad as it needs to be for her to leave this asshole, imho. :p
Tell him to go swing by himself, I think you know he's not the man you want to spend the rest of your life with!
Giving himself a "legitimate" reason to cheat. He's not worth your time.
The point of this FML, 36, is that he only asked to "swing" so that he could get laid. If he wasn't fair in the agreement and basically lied to OP about how it would work, then yes- he cheated. Asking to do it under false pretenses so that his wife wouldn't freak out as badly is just gross.
@78 I did say that he should have just been honest and not demand different rules for the both of them. I'm just saying it's not cheating, either they already had sex with a third and it was ok or they are going to and it's not ok anymore. No act of cheating has happened yet. He lied, he's an asshole, but not a cheating asshole.