By Anonymous - 17/06/2014 12:26 - United Kingdom

Today, I feel massively depressed, but I can't talk to anyone about it as I'm British. FML
I agree, your life sucks 40 378
You deserved it 11 553

Top comments

martin8337 35

People can't talk about their feelings in the UK? I don't know, try France or somewhere.


Demig0d6 14

Sorry that you're British op

We must be in a different part of Britain because people here talk too much about their feelings

To literally everyone who does not get this, I am nearly positive that OP was referring to the crushing loss to Italy in the World Cup. Olè

zebrainthenight 13

Actually you can look at the replies to #8 if you don't get it. It has nothing to do with the World Cup.

51 - and that would make them massivly depressed? unless you mean they're exagerating to be funny. but i'm gonna go with 70s idea about the below threads

To #70 and #71, yours is a guess as well. but a much better one than mine. I wish OP would follow up.

44 maybe u ate talking about your feelings because you are on acid

Bloody hell, now you've gone and bollocks' d it.

I am british and I do say those words but never has anyone said them all in the same sentence...

martin8337 35

People can't talk about their feelings in the UK? I don't know, try France or somewhere.

It's not that we can't, we just don't tend to. We only ever complain about other things, rather than speaking about our personal emotions. I understand OP wholly, maybe it's just a British thing to be reserved.

randomthing 22

It's the same thing in Denmark - to be reserved and not talk about your problems. :b

screw that I'm British and in therapy, i'd rather talk to someone about my problems because the alternative to them is suicide.

Shadowvoid 33

I'm not so sure you have the same problems as I. I hope you have better options than suicide. I also hope OP doesn't have the same thought. Good luck with all of your problems and I hope you resolve them, and live a happy life.

suicide shouldn't be the alternative...

Plenty of us brits with depression gave the sense to talk to someone. It took me years as I didn't realise what was wrong. OP, if you really are depressed, go talk top a GP. Yes it's hard, but when you leave it too long for whatever reason, it can get worse.

I wish it was like that in America. A lot of kids I know seem to think that childhood, or better said teenage-hood, is a disease. So it's become obvious where I live that teens like to complain about their "oh so bad" middle class lives for attention or what not. It is quite irritating to me as I like to keep my problems to myself and not expose my feelings for the world.

PotatoPal 11

#109, you must remember "teenage-hood" is a tough time for all of us. Maybe they do complain for attention, but they're just kids. Cut them some slack.

Then keep to yourself and dont worry about their problems.

I went to see my gp and she basically thought I was lying and said if I really do think there is a problem try amazon and buy a few books on it.

jamescrazy96 17

Agreed... I'm a middle class teen but it sickens me for others to compline. Life sometimes sucks but get over it.

Sounds stupid, nationality shouldn't dictate how you express your emotions. I'm sure there's someone out there to talk to, like a mom or dad, sibling, etc.

And you're also a man. Don't know what to tell you. I guess you need to suck it up, the only option realy.

By your downvotes, I don't think people can see your sarcasm.

gender change surgery and move to a different country. tada! new life and problem solved

Aww, but I don't want to resort to *sarcasm* tags >_> *pout*

myoukei 31

@23 it's sex change. Gender is a mental thing.

I'm completely speechless at the level of stupidity your showing right now 32

#32 - know you facts before saying them..

Says the idiot that can't tell the difference between "your" and "you're."

i know the differnce, but if you look i said NEITHER of those two words. (obviously left of the end by mistake so it just says you..)

kingdomgirl94 29

49, you're not only being very rude but you're also wrong. It says SURGERY, that implies changing ones genitals and becoming physically female. The term IS sex change. Sex refers to your genitals, gender refers to whether a person is male or female mentally or in their self representation. You cannot have surgery to change your gender, only your sex.

its not like i put " 're " at the end of it, so although i wrote quickly and made a typo mistake leaving out a letter, claiming i don't know the differnce between two words i didnt actually use is stupid...

Take a day trip aren't there other countries in driving distance?

Great Britain is an island. Perhaps you could hitch a ride on some passing Wales...

It is an island, but you can drive to France from London in about three hours using the Channel Tunnel.

willvamp123 6

do you not k is where the UK is

Would someone mind explaining this FML to me please?

Us British folk are really reserved, I can see it sounds really weird to non-Brits but I completely understand it! We rarely talk about our feelings, we tend just to keep them hidden. I've noticed Americans talk about therapists quite openly, in England (it's where I live in Britain, not sure about Scotland or NI), having a therapist is something that's kept on the down low.

ShortySmidget 10

Even if people don't tell family and friends about seeing a therapist/struggling mentally, that doesn't stop people actually going to see a therapist. Just because us Brits don't shout about our mental issues doesn't mean we cannot (try and) sort them out.

Of course! I just meant that we don't tell people if we do see therapists, it's seen as a taboo thing, or at least up North it is.

ShortySmidget 10

I know quite a few people who are happy to tell everyone they know about their mental struggles, but generally it's the same here in the South too :) It just seems that a lot of non-British folks are having trouble understanding this FML, and I don't want to push this stereotype further by giving the impression that we never talk to professionals about our problems! :P

well yeah, we are more reserved than americans, but people are generally quite open to to their friends and family about this stuff... or at least the people I know. I kind of understand people not wanting to adverse it or let strangers know... even in america you's be pitied if you went to see a therapist, right? people usually just want to avoid scrutiny. One of my friends went to a therapist and told people!

I'm British but I'll tell people what's bothering me if I know they won't judge me. This FML is silly.

I think it may be different for men, any emotion expressed is seen as weakness and any help needed from freinds or family isn't given. There are plenty of people who treated me differently when I was on anti depressants. Even when I tried to access therapy through my GP and local hospital I was essentially laughed at and treated like I was overreacting.

#24 Yes it's also done in NL where I'm from yet not in Ireland so when I moved to Ireland people where a bit to open for me and questioned why I wasnt

rldostie 19

You're not pitied in America for seeing a therapist--depending on your geographic locations. In most places, it's very open and normal to admit to seeing a therapist. Practically everyone does it. Yet in the South, there might still be some reservations and/or stereotypes about therapy, but even those are disappearing. As the country as a whole becomes more aware of PTSD due to the wars, the country has become more welcoming or accepting of therapy in general. No one thinks one is crazy or nutty for seeing a therapist anymore. To the OP, not matter where you may be, seeking therapy for depression is vital and essential. If you're uncomfortable letting people know about it, then just don't tell them. But don't let the cultural "norms" stop you from getting mental health and stability.

Sounds like I have been British all my life then.

SkyGuy32 17

#104, it really just depends on the specific person and people they know. For example, I live in Texas and I am very reserved. Very seldom do people talk about their emotions depending on who they are, and the only times I've really talked to people about their emotions was helping depressed/suicidal people on the internet.

I'm British and I talk quite openly about my feelings, concerns and vulnerabilities. I always have. I have actually seen a Psychologist and Psychiatrist when I was in my early 20s (which was really effective and I feel it was incredibly valuable) but I'm not exactly shouting about it from the rooftops. I would however shared my open and honest experience of it if someone asked me or I could see someone was struggling and felt they could benefit from it.

Goblin182 26

#24 you make me wish all of my co-workers were Brittish

Am I missing something here? Because I don't see how being British stops you from talking about your feelings.

They probably think no one will take them serious b.c. of their accent. Just a guess though.

ahippienamedrae 10