By Anonymous - 17/06/2014 12:26 - United Kingdom
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Bloody hell, now you've gone and bollocks' d it.
People can't talk about their feelings in the UK? I don't know, try France or somewhere.
I wish it was like that in America. A lot of kids I know seem to think that childhood, or better said teenage-hood, is a disease. So it's become obvious where I live that teens like to complain about their "oh so bad" middle class lives for attention or what not. It is quite irritating to me as I like to keep my problems to myself and not expose my feelings for the world.
And you're also a man. Don't know what to tell you. I guess you need to suck it up, the only option realy.
49, you're not only being very rude but you're also wrong. It says SURGERY, that implies changing ones genitals and becoming physically female. The term IS sex change. Sex refers to your genitals, gender refers to whether a person is male or female mentally or in their self representation. You cannot have surgery to change your gender, only your sex.
Take a day trip aren't there other countries in driving distance?
Us British folk are really reserved, I can see it sounds really weird to non-Brits but I completely understand it! We rarely talk about our feelings, we tend just to keep them hidden. I've noticed Americans talk about therapists quite openly, in England (it's where I live in Britain, not sure about Scotland or NI), having a therapist is something that's kept on the down low.
I know quite a few people who are happy to tell everyone they know about their mental struggles, but generally it's the same here in the South too :) It just seems that a lot of non-British folks are having trouble understanding this FML, and I don't want to push this stereotype further by giving the impression that we never talk to professionals about our problems! :P
well yeah, we are more reserved than americans, but people are generally quite open to to their friends and family about this stuff... or at least the people I know. I kind of understand people not wanting to adverse it or let strangers know... even in america you's be pitied if you went to see a therapist, right? people usually just want to avoid scrutiny. One of my friends went to a therapist and told people!
I think it may be different for men, any emotion expressed is seen as weakness and any help needed from freinds or family isn't given. There are plenty of people who treated me differently when I was on anti depressants. Even when I tried to access therapy through my GP and local hospital I was essentially laughed at and treated like I was overreacting.
You're not pitied in America for seeing a therapist--depending on your geographic locations. In most places, it's very open and normal to admit to seeing a therapist. Practically everyone does it. Yet in the South, there might still be some reservations and/or stereotypes about therapy, but even those are disappearing. As the country as a whole becomes more aware of PTSD due to the wars, the country has become more welcoming or accepting of therapy in general. No one thinks one is crazy or nutty for seeing a therapist anymore. To the OP, not matter where you may be, seeking therapy for depression is vital and essential. If you're uncomfortable letting people know about it, then just don't tell them. But don't let the cultural "norms" stop you from getting mental health and stability.
#104, it really just depends on the specific person and people they know. For example, I live in Texas and I am very reserved. Very seldom do people talk about their emotions depending on who they are, and the only times I've really talked to people about their emotions was helping depressed/suicidal people on the internet.
I'm British and I talk quite openly about my feelings, concerns and vulnerabilities. I always have. I have actually seen a Psychologist and Psychiatrist when I was in my early 20s (which was really effective and I feel it was incredibly valuable) but I'm not exactly shouting about it from the rooftops. I would however shared my open and honest experience of it if someone asked me or I could see someone was struggling and felt they could benefit from it.