By areyoukiddingme - 07/01/2013 06:09 - United States
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It's bad when the people of the Internet will take you more seriously than your parents. Sorry op
They probably had you pegged as asexual. Celibacy can be a choice, or it could just be foisted upon you.
well. to be fair the only one ever surprised at someone coming out is the one coming out. thats the main reason I was not surprised by my friends laughing and saying no shit when I did.
I had a similar case with not one, but TWO friends from high school. I wasn't homophobic, but I'd grown up in a rather conservative household and that was pretty well known - I didn't swear, got good grades, wasn't really allowed to date guys unless it was a group date, etc. One of the two guys I 'dated' for almost a year in 8th grade - we never went further than hugs, cheek kissing and holding hands, but he went on to have other girlfriends in high school and after, and only came out LAST YEAR - ten years after graduation. The other case was a good friend of mine. He didn't want it widely known in high school that he was gay - it was a suburban school and many of the guys who went there were pretty homophobic, if they thought a guy was 'gay' they'd torment him, stuff him in a locker, into a garbage can, all kinds of shit. He came out to our small circle of friends - we were pretty careful to protect his secret, one of us girls always went with him to any school event where one might be expected to bring a date (like the grad formal, dances, etc). He came out to his parents the year after they graduated - and they were flabbergasted. His father refused to see him for a while (I wrote to him a lot during this time, we went to different colleges), but he's come around now. He just got married last year - to the guy of his dreams. I'm really happy for him. But it really *is* possible that people don't know, especially if the person is desperate to hide it and as a result tries incessantly to 'act straight'.
For me, when I came out to my parents for being trans they kind of just stared at me for a moment and had this "oh shit" look on their faces. They always thought I was a lesbian because I would dress as a guy; even though I told them repeatedly that I like guys. Who knows if they really believed me, but they were certainly shocked by it because I hid myself so well.
18 - I have a gay friend who shocked everyone when he came out. People often expect gay men to be effeminate but my friend is a butch rugby player who had hooked up with lots of girls (he tried to turn himself straight). It isn't always obvious when people are gay.
Well personally I have never had someone surprise me when they came out. Of course I am only 16, and have a while before someone that I know comes out. My best friend from preschool though recently came out as being bisexual. Even before she came out, I had a feeling she was either bi or lesbian. So personally it did not surprise me when she came out. Even though before she came out, she never mentioned about liking girls and guys. I guess you could say I had a sixth sense about her.