a dislocated hip would be a hell of a lot more than a turn-off. she said dislocated hip. That means the femur came out of the acetabulum. It's like pulling the arm bone out of the shoulder socket. and you do this a lot? You're going to have arthritis like a motherfucker by age 50. You might even have a connective tissue disease.

It sounds like you have a joint condition like hyper-mobility, it's fairly common, especially in women.

Same here. My Dr suspects Ehlers Danlos, but I've yet to get the genetic test.

I have EDS, my hips pop all the time! Luckily it's not painful for me as usually goes in just as easily.

Sometimes, when a person has already dislocated it once, it keeps happening. My sister dislocated her arm for the first time whilst climbing and now it happens fairly often.

why would you hurt and horrify and torment yourself like that?

That exact same scenario is about to cause a filing for separation. He gets so pouty and MEAN when he has to go 2 nights without help at an orgasm. I'm So sick of being treated like an unpaid whore. I feel required to provide sexual services and get nothing in return... NOTHING. He isn't nice before or after and (extra) treats me like shit if I say no. At least he no longer forces himself on me. You can't imagine the number of times I've walked away crying and contemplating a call to 911 for marital rape. I now HATE SEX!

Wow.... Sorry for that very personal and detailed venting. Hit a nerve I suppose.

First of all, my condolences for having to deal with such a terrible marriage. As my main point, I'm unsure if it was just passion that made you say it, but letting that same terrible husband ruin sex for you is basically letting him rule your life even after he's gone. My suggestion is to give it a chance with someone you feel a genuine affection and attraction for (however far into the future it may be) and go from there. It's up to you in the end though, just putting my thoughts out there

*way