By Anonymous - United States - Los Angeles
Today, at a family gathering, it emerged that my now ex-fiancé has been sleeping with his brother's girlfriend for some time now. A fight broke out, the police were called, and more than one of his relatives are blaming me for him cheating with her. FML
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  amisenho  |  11

People come up with plenty of stupid reasons to try to justify why the cheater is the victim in these cases. Usually, it's to make themselves feel better about their choices - to make themselves not look like the bad guy - and use their significant other as a scapegoat for their problems (i.e., she was boring in bed, so I had no choice but to shop around elsewhere; his attitude when discussing having kids drove me to seek another; it's his/her fault I wasn't happy in the relationship and found love somewhere else, etc.). No doubt, OP was a victim of illogical poppycock; the ex probably drummed up sympathy by saying he wasn't happy with OP, and they gave him the benefit of the doubt by overlooking his infidelity and projecting the causes onto OP in the process. In other words, they were blaming the tree for being where the fire was.

By  i_h8t_everything  |  12

Oh I've encountered other's parents who are like that: ones that refuse to believe that their "flawless child" is guilty in any situation, thus why if their kid hurts somebody outside of their bloodline, they give that person the blame for their son's/daughter's actions. Don't worry, OP. Just be grateful that you're no longer with that asshole. You'll find somebody better.


I understand people who are like that, but why blame OP? It seems more logical to blame the brother's girlfriend to me. Maybe there is something else there and this is just an excuse to do be angry with OP?

  Setareh23  |  34

I'm guessing it's just a question of playing favorites. The brother's gf may be more liked than OP, so they use OP as a convenient scapegoat to avoid blaming anyone else. Talk about denial!