By Anonymous - 22/03/2014 17:31 - United States - Los Angeles
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i really wonder how you ended up being the person that everyone is pointing fingers to
People come up with plenty of stupid reasons to try to justify why the cheater is the victim in these cases. Usually, it's to make themselves feel better about their choices - to make themselves not look like the bad guy - and use their significant other as a scapegoat for their problems (i.e., she was boring in bed, so I had no choice but to shop around elsewhere; his attitude when discussing having kids drove me to seek another; it's his/her fault I wasn't happy in the relationship and found love somewhere else, etc.). No doubt, OP was a victim of illogical poppycock; the ex probably drummed up sympathy by saying he wasn't happy with OP, and they gave him the benefit of the doubt by overlooking his infidelity and projecting the causes onto OP in the process. In other words, they were blaming the tree for being where the fire was.
Oh I've encountered other's parents who are like that: ones that refuse to believe that their "flawless child" is guilty in any situation, thus why if their kid hurts somebody outside of their bloodline, they give that person the blame for their son's/daughter's actions. Don't worry, OP. Just be grateful that you're no longer with that asshole. You'll find somebody better.