By apparentlyugly - 10/12/2014 01:56 - United States - Henderson
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Harsh! Guess whose support she doesn't deserve when she is old, frail and graying..not yours.
Poor OP. I'm sure you're not ugly. Your mum is clearly just incredibly shallow and cares more about what people think than the beautiful daughter she has. And if she can't see that-that's her problem; not to mention her loss.
#9: This is illogical for so many reasons... First of all - if caring about the opinion of others makes people shallow, then OP is either shallow herself or won't care about YOUR opinion on how she looks. Secondly - you can't know whether she's beautiful or not, so why are you automatically assuming that the mother is wrong? Finally - OP clearly got upset because she cares, at least the tiniest bit, about the opinion of her mother. Some fucks were given that day. Does that make OP "shallow" as well?
I say that's it wrong because her mother DIRECTLY SAID that her daughter is embarrassing to be around when she's not 'pretty'. What kind of logical, loving mother says that kind of thing? And I thought the compliment might cheer her up after being insulted by her mother.
Thank you #42. Every one is beautiful. Maybe not to #41s standards or society's narrow standards but every body is a good body. We don't get to choose or earn the face we're born with so there should not be so much value granted to it. And good mothers build their children's confidence when they raise then, OPs mom was rude and this comment may stick with her for a long time.
#41: Exactly. Most attributes in nature have Gaussian distribution. We make distinctions to tell things apart. When we call someone "tall", we probably mean "taller than average". When we say "smart", we probably mean "smarter than average". The moment we can tell a person "Don't worry, you're beautiful... Everyone is beautiful" two things happen: First of all - the term no longer provides us with meaningful information. If everyone is "beautiful", then the amount of information present in the sentence "THIS particular person is beautiful", no matter the person in question, is equal to 0 bits. Nothing. Secondly, consequently, this is no longer a compliment. If you're just like everyone else, there's no sense of pride to be had there.
#44 telling someone that they are beautiful will always be a compliment. Everyone is beautiful but everyone is also different, your example with height is one dimensional, height is one quality. It's not like calling everyone beautiful makes them have the same face. Everyone has different unique qualities that should be celebrated. Beauty should not be putting the few on a pedestal while putting down the rest. Beautiful should not be reserved just for some. Although the media fights to say otherwise..