Today, after several months of eating right, exercising, and weight loss, my mother has yet again arrived at my house, unannounced and with a very sugary cake. She's been doing this most weeks since I lost 50 pounds. FML
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Today, after taking vacation time to visit her, my mom told me she was glad I was leaving so she could get back to her diet. I'm prediabetic and have been trying to manage the condition. She ordered dessert at every meal and was the only one in the family who did. FML
Today, I decided to go on a diet to lose some weight before summer. This was followed by the arrival of a giant parcel full of candy from my mother. FML
Today, I went to my parents' house. I recently lost about 30 lbs. My mom hugged me and said, "Aww, you're not my chubby baby girl anymore." She then said she wished I were still fat because she missed it. She's the reason I lost the weight; she used to tease and taunt me. Thanks Mom. FML
Today, I told my mom I was finally going on a diet. She let me know how proud she is of me fighting temptation, by making my favorite cookies and dinner. FML
Today, I bought myself a Crumbl cookie as a treat for losing 20lbs. Upon seeing it, my mom screamed at me for cheating on my diet and how I was going to "gain all the weight back" and insisted she eat some of it to "help me out." She left behind a tiny morsel of the cookie with a chocolate chip chunk. FML
Today, I received a box in the mail from my mom which I assumed was a care package. It was a scale to encourage me to lose weight. FML
Today, I woke up early and spent hours baking and icing a three-tier cake for my friend's eighteenth birthday, which is this evening. I just found out my mother threw it in the compost bin because she's on a diet and it was "tempting" her. FML
Today, my co-worker offered me sweets, then chocolate and then biscuits. Repeatedly. She knows I'm trying to diet for my wedding. She does this every day. FML
Today, I walked downstairs in a new outfit, after dieting for 3 months, and losing just over 20 pounds. My mom took one look at me and said "You'd better keep going." FML
Today, for Mother's Day, I surprised my Mother with the news I that I'll be visiting in June. The last time we got to visit was 4 years ago, we live 4000 miles apart and it's a very expensive trip. She said, "No, come next June, I want to lose some more weight before seeing you." FML
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haileyrows 26
Doesn't sound like your mom's being very sweet
_kyleG_ 34
Maybe she's saying that you need to sweeten up? Don't give her such a frosted response- appreciate her kindness, even if it's Devil's Food!
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Comments (106)
Drosophila82 18
Don't give up and be strong. Good for you losing that weight. Think how healthy your body feels!
clair_brodie 35
You know you can still eat snacky stuff right?
granCanyon 12
Don't eat it, if you don't want to. It's just food. If one or two cakes go to waste, she'll probably stop.
ZombieSazza 34
Some people, including our family members, can get jealous when we see how well others are doing, maybe the cake is because she's jealous you've lost so much weight? Just a thought. But congratulations on losing so much weight!!!!! That's an incredible amount to lose, well done, OP!
RAH94 17
Don't give in to the sugar!
Sheh_fml 25
People aren't all that comfortable with change. She might not even realise she's doing it or why, because maybe in her mind you've been working so hard and deserve a treat. Or she thinks you've become too skinny, even if someone is still obese (not saying the OP is, just hypothetically) one could think they look too skinny or not right after they've lost a noticeable amount of weight because you're just so used to how they used to look. Of course one can still enjoy sweets while on a diet, but you'll have to watch the amount you eat. I get the feeling that the mom shows up and leaves the whole cake there, leaving the OP to either eat it all, throw it away or try to unload it on someone else. Even with the discipline to follow a diet, resisting a cake you already have right there is hard. That's why one of the most common diet tips is to get rid of the stuff you shouldn't eat, instead of hiding it away until a craving hit. It is easier to resist driving to the store just for a cookie, than to resist taking one if you already have them in your pantry. Ask her to stop. Maybe something like "mum, I appreciate that you baked this for me, but it is really not helping me keep to my goals". Or if she "just want to celebrate/treat you", suggest going out for ice cream or something, then you could just buy a small scoop instead of being left with a whole cake.
Lola26042002 12
Crangratulations on losing 50 pounds! Mabye talk to your mom about the cakes or give them to someone else.
laden_swallow09 35
Since delegating with her doesn't seem to work, you'll have to up the active resistance, meaning either firm, outright "No" as if you were training a puppy, chucking her cakes in the trash while she's looking, and/or not even allowing her into your house until she develops the capability to bring more sensible treats like a fruit basket. It's okay to want cake, but you want to live a long and healthy life even more so. What your mother is doing here can be considered borderline abusive. Stay strong, OP. You can win.
polariz 16
why don't you just say to her that you are trying to lose weight and that eating candies/cakes aren't in the plan ?
snarkytruth 37
Sabotage.