This Is Us

By Anonymous - 04/11/2021 16:59

Today, I located my birth dad and asked him why I was put into care. Turns out my mom died, and since he hadn’t wanted me in the first place, he just gave me away and hoped to never see me again. He didn’t even invite me in, he threw a beer at me and threatened to call the cops unless I left. FML
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I am sorry, but one more time again, slightly different circumstances. Your “real” parents are the people who raised you, regardless of if they are your birth parents or not. People don’t give up their children for adoption without their own reasons. And those reasons are never going to make you feel good. The best spin on the situation is that whoever was your birth parent(s) - If they put you up for adoption they did so knowing that someone else would be better parent(s) for you than they could be. While I understand the curiosity, there is simply no good reason to go to great lengths to look up your birth parents if you were adopted. Nothing good is likely to come from it.

You don't need him, OP. You're better than him.

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You don't need him, OP. You're better than him.

I am sorry, but one more time again, slightly different circumstances. Your “real” parents are the people who raised you, regardless of if they are your birth parents or not. People don’t give up their children for adoption without their own reasons. And those reasons are never going to make you feel good. The best spin on the situation is that whoever was your birth parent(s) - If they put you up for adoption they did so knowing that someone else would be better parent(s) for you than they could be. While I understand the curiosity, there is simply no good reason to go to great lengths to look up your birth parents if you were adopted. Nothing good is likely to come from it.

That’s not fair, plenty of people have reunited with birth families and had good experiences. We found my mums birth family, unfortunately both parents had passed but she now has three new siblings who welcomed her straight away and we were able to find out the reasons behind her adoption. Obviously not everyone has a good experience but it’s still worth finding out

That’s hard. But at least you know. Time to move on. Don’t hesitate to ask for some psychological help. And I hope you have some family and friends that can cheer you up.

Why would you just show up unannounced? Get in touch with that guy whose dad left him out of BBQs, trips to Vegas and weddings. You two probably have a lot to talk about.

Fathers always look forward to sharing their kid's first beer...

I'm very sorry OP. Hug for you my friend