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By Pushover - 25/08/2022 03:00 - United States

Today, I actually felt good after being rude to someone. My avoidant personality disorder and social anxiety have made me like such a goddamn pushover that standing up for myself in any way, right or wrong, makes me feel proud of myself. FML
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cuz803 44

I use to be the same way. It's a insecurity thing but you're doing well acknowledging it and standing up for yourself. Keep going. If you can, try going to a gym to boost your confidence more.

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RichardPencil 30

That's a good first step. Pretty soon you'll advance to pooping on people's lawns or cars and posting your handiwork on TikTok. Progress!

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cuz803 44

I use to be the same way. It's a insecurity thing but you're doing well acknowledging it and standing up for yourself. Keep going. If you can, try going to a gym to boost your confidence more.

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Marcella1016 31

Wanted to second this. I don’t have formal disorders, but can absolutely relate, from pushover to finally standing up for myself in an over the top way, right or wrong. Agreed, the insecurity from being a “pushover” can lead to extreme overreactions and being really defensive. But with confidence, you gradually get more chill, and you learn how to set boundaries without having to go to extremes. It’s a long, slow process getting to that balance between pushover and overreactor, but with time, as you grow and work on yourself, it’ll get better. That’s how it worked for me, at least. In my early 30s. Basically I just faked confidence until it ended up being kind of real and now I’m mostly pretty secure - but still often have the anxiety underneath with many social interactions. YMMV, but good luck! Like cuz said much more succinctly than I, you’ve taken the first step and now you’re on your way!

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Marcella1016 31

Wanted to second this. I don’t have formal disorders, but can absolutely relate, from pushover to finally standing up for myself in an over the top way, right or wrong. Agreed, the insecurity from being a “pushover” can lead to extreme overreactions and being really defensive. But with confidence, you gradually get more chill, and you learn how to set boundaries without having to go to extremes. It’s a long, slow process getting to that balance between pushover and overreactor, but with time, as you grow and work on yourself, it’ll get better. That’s how it worked for me, at least. In my early 30s. Basically I just faked confidence until it ended up being kind of real and now I’m mostly pretty secure - but still often have the anxiety underneath with many social interactions. YMMV, but good luck! Like cuz said much more succinctly than I, you’ve taken the first step and now you’re on your way!

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RichardPencil 30

That's a good first step. Pretty soon you'll advance to pooping on people's lawns or cars and posting your handiwork on TikTok. Progress!

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Marcella1016 31

Man, how our society has evolved!

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Anderling 32

It’s a first step, and I think it’s good that you recognize that you were wrong here. Still, I feel like getting therapy so you’ll stick to standing up for yourself when you’re right is a good next step.

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cxex 23

It may feel nice at first, but if you keep doing that, soon you'll get bad habits like being rude all the time to people. You don't have to be rude to stand up for yourself, just assertive.

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