Fishing for compliments often goes badly.

Not a bad response. Sounds like you were looking for something specific?

Time for a divorce...jk. It might be time to get his hormones checked. He could be suffering from low T/libido which diminishes sex drive and other stuff. Maybe go out and bond more. Definitely exercise if you don't because exercising frequently improves health and sex drive. Just find multiple ways to bond and feel good together.

OK this is something I have identical experience with. His sex drive is not linked to you in any way. He needs to get his testosterone levels checked and likely go on a supplement. My late hubby had a cream he put on his shoulder every morning to bring up his levels and things sorted themselves out. Please talk with him about getting a full physical and bloodwork done to determine his medical issues.

not to take away or hijack, but I'm going through something similar but less so since she is my gf not married. I swear she asexual and not telling me. she doesn't even play with herself, and she has never done it or thinks about doing it. she finds ways to not have sex and she never turned on by anything and finds **** appalling. I love her, but it's tough, and you're gonna need to either fix his T levels, and if it doesn't work, then you're gonna have to decide if going without that part of the relationship is worth it. call me shallow, but it's been tough, and I sometimes wanna dip dip potato chip out of it, but I'm still deciding.

From what you have said it sounds like you have a fantastic friendship. But that's not a marriage. If he's always been low on the sex drive then that's probably just how he is. If it's something that has declined over the years or in recent years then a full medical is required. If T levels are too low in men then it will cause major osteoporosis issues. Crumbling bones are not fun or fixable once the damage is done (guys, please make a note of this for your own and your mates reference. Low T levels = bad. Get it checked) The problem you have with your husband is simple. You want to feel like more than just his best friend. Which is perfectly understandable. You have 4 options. 1, sacrifice your own fulfilment to your marriage. 2, separate and move on. 3, discuss the issue openly, clearly (maybe with a marriage counselor) and then get yourself a toyboy on the side. 4, Have a flat out affair or string if affairs until he finds out. It's possible that he's being very lazy about actually looking after you because he's entirely confident that you aren't going anywhere. Make 'I'm going somewhere because of this' noises and gage his response. If he doesn't care or immediately blames you then he's just enjoying his comfortable situation. If he panics then he's seriously afraid of loosing you and you have enough foundation to work with. Don't be afraid of time. If you end up having to move on to be happy then you will find someone. Especially being net savvy. Don't let generational attitudes hold you back. It's a new age and you deserve to be a happy, fulfilled and appreciated woman. 🫂