Heres what you do: transfer all your money into an account that you "dont own" and serve that beezy divorce papers. Shes not a keeper bro if shes willing to leave you over not hiring her deadbeat son. ...or you know hire his ass as a part time janitor.

Honestly, I'm sure she has her good side, you married her after all, but an all too common mistake made is that we become far too lenient on the bad qualities because we know about the good qualities. She entered a sacred vow of unity with you, for better or for worse. Now she's threatening you and using that vow as a tool of control. That's dangerously close to emotional abuse. It's time to have a very serious talk with the woman about what the marriage means to both of you. I'm not saying definitely divorce her, but from what you're saying, it's time to financially and legally prepare yourself for the worst. She may be a lovely woman aside from how she views her son, but that doesn't necessarily mean she was ready for marriage. Best of luck, OP. Sincerely.