Life doesn't imitate art

By Anonymous - 02/02/2022 10:59 - France

Today, I realized I hate my life now. Everything changed. My friends changed. I don't like Paris. It's cold and lonely. It's nothing like Emily in Paris. I'm overstressed with uni and my future. I want a break. FML
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Well, the fact your friends changed likely has little to do with Paris being a pretty terrible place. It's difficult to tell how bad things are for you and how much is just feeling down from being homesick. At the end of the day, in case you haven't tried already: try to enjoy your time here, go to your uni's foreign students association, try meeting people there (especially if you don't speak French very well, it might be much easier than meeting random French people, whose English is gonna be freaking abysmal). You'll also have an easier time relating to other exchange students' experience. Also, as a long-time expat, I'd suggest trying to find yourself a boyfriend/girlfriend (although, obviously, don't force yourself). It makes life significantly more palatable. Oh, and about the weather being trash, it'll get much nicer in about 1-2 months, and it's quite lovely in May-June. Best of luck and hope you hold up until then!

Enjoy it while it last. Once you graduate and start working 50+ hour weeks you'll realize how much time you had in uni.

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mattiagardin 10

Well well well if it ain't the consequence of your own actions

For life to be like in movies, you need a lot of money. Anyway, welcome to Paris.

Well, the fact your friends changed likely has little to do with Paris being a pretty terrible place. It's difficult to tell how bad things are for you and how much is just feeling down from being homesick. At the end of the day, in case you haven't tried already: try to enjoy your time here, go to your uni's foreign students association, try meeting people there (especially if you don't speak French very well, it might be much easier than meeting random French people, whose English is gonna be freaking abysmal). You'll also have an easier time relating to other exchange students' experience. Also, as a long-time expat, I'd suggest trying to find yourself a boyfriend/girlfriend (although, obviously, don't force yourself). It makes life significantly more palatable. Oh, and about the weather being trash, it'll get much nicer in about 1-2 months, and it's quite lovely in May-June. Best of luck and hope you hold up until then!

Enjoy it while it last. Once you graduate and start working 50+ hour weeks you'll realize how much time you had in uni.

Or she can live in a civilized country where people only work 35-40 hours a week to make a decent living. But sure, I guess she can live in the US too if she enjoys wasting her life to make money.

Even if you work only 40 hours per week, you won’t have as much free time as a student. Adult life is great, but unless living all alone, you’ll hardly have time for yourself.

I guess you were never a student to think that? Maybe it's different in the US, but in France (and many other countries), you get an average of maybe 25-30 hours of classes per week (sometimes more), plus personal work (studying, homework, projects, etc.), plus exams. Besides, compared to the average desk job, the stress of your entire life hinging on a few exams is rather gruelingly stressful. So, yes, being a student is harder than most jobs in many countries.

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Hello, I’m from Paris and I’m afraid Emily in Paris is not a realistic depiction of life in Paris, neither is Friends a realistic depiction of life in New York. Paris is a small town (10km * 10km), expensive, dirty, overpopulated. The French are rude and unfriendly. The public services are on strike every second week. Paris is not a pleasant place. It’s not all parties and fun. Besides, students are expected to study very hard. Students are very competitive about their future. I came back after trying to live elsewhere because that’s where all the jobs are (12 million people live in Paris out of 66 million in France).

Sounds like another very stereotypical depiction of Paris. I grew up there and no, Paris is not just dirty and full of rude people. It’s not all black and white.

Always wise to expect your life to work out like a tv show.

If you can, going out of Paris to discover other regions could help you change your mind. Otherwise there are tons of places to visit in Paris or its surrounding region. There are many associations you can go to to meet people. If you’re Christian (or even if you’re not) look for the « aumônerie » of your university. Time is grey. But it will get better.

Well of course it's not like Emily in Paris, what did you expect? Go to some evenings of language exchange, you can find a ton of these all around Paris. You'll meet people, go to places/quartiers you wouldn't know about otherwise and you might even find out that french are actually nice and not so bad at languages, despite every cliché you may have heard.

How long have you been in Paris? It always takes time to adapt to a new place, especially if it’s really different from where you’re from. Are your friends in Paris or back home? Where are you from?