Today, I had another phone call with my mother; she has rapid onset dementia, and never gets my name right anymore. Already terrible, but she consistently calls me by my abusive ex-partner’s name instead of my own, so I get double trauma. Obviously F her life, but also FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my mom called me by the wrong name. This isn't the first time. It wouldn't be so bad, except I'm her only kid. FML
Today, my dad has dementia and has been getting my name wrong with increasing frequency. During one of his lucid moments, he ended up admitting those wrong names are actually of his other 7 kids, my half siblings to various women, 5 in this country and 2 in Europe, but I’m not to tell my mother. FML
Today, my mom called me by her favorite TV show character's name. Again. This is the eighth time this week. I'm an only child, and I'm 15. I thought she had my name down pat by now. FML
Today, my mom has gotten to the stage of her Alzheimer’s where every time I visit she thinks I’m a burglar, and screams and cries until I leave. My dad does his best, but I just want my mom back. FML
Today, my bitch ex has successfully trained our daughter to refer to her second husband as “Dad” and me as Mister, or Sir, or even by my first name a few times. This has to be abuse of some kind, mental anguish, cruel and unusual bullshit. FML
Today, my fiancée’s siblings kept calling me by her ex-boyfriend’s name. FML
Today, as usual, my mom got shitfaced and started berating me for something. This time, it was for missing a therapy appointment. Not only am I unable to drive, it was her appointment. For her alcoholism. FML
Today, after I had changed my number to get away from my abusive ex, my mom decided to give him my new one. She insists that I need to give him another chance. FML
Today, my mom ambushed me with my cheating ex-fiancé, thinking being in the same room would miraculously change the past and we’d get back together. When I tried to walk out, my mom screamed like a banshee and latched onto my leg. After this I’m putting her in a retirement home and never visiting. FML
Today, my four-year-old daughter called me by her mom's new boyfriend's name. Three different times. FML
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GoogieWithers 25
She genuinely doesn't mean it.
MissCadaverous 11
I feel you OP, my grandmother, whom I care for 24/7, has worsening dementia and has started calling me by her dead daughter's name, who is my dead mother. It's rough, but they don't mean it. Hang in there!
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GoogieWithers 25
She genuinely doesn't mean it.
MissCadaverous 11
I feel you OP, my grandmother, whom I care for 24/7, has worsening dementia and has started calling me by her dead daughter's name, who is my dead mother. It's rough, but they don't mean it. Hang in there!
Austin Cannon 5
None of this is fair. But your courage in sharing it? That’s a tiny act of rebellion against the silence. Keep breathing. Keep reaching out. 🌱