By problemchild - United States


Today, I went to a family counseling session because my parents are getting a divorce. I told the counselor that I feel guilty because I feel like I caused it. She says that there is no way I could have caused it, that it's my parents' problem when my mom interrupts her to say, "Yes she did." FML
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  Reyo  |  2

Your mother is deffering the blame, which is most likely the cause for the divorce, not you. What probably happened is that the divorce was going to happen, and all three of you subconsciously knew it. Chances are, there was an increase in fighting, which left an imprint on you. You started to act out, which is natural considering it happens in most divorces where there's a kid involved, and that caused more fights. It's still early in the therapy, yes? Stop blaming yourself and let it go its natural course. Chances are your mother will realize her fuckups and feel like a complete bitch. If not...well...she's just plain psycho and you need to rid yourself of her fast.

  sexxxtacy  |  0

while i believe the mom is a complete bitch for this, does noone else think that its retarded how the girl is like its my fault...but gets pissed when the mom agrees? ppl always blame themself just to hear others argue...its kinda annoying

  White667  |  0

I call bullshit. Children are fucking annoying, I can see 1000x's how they could break up a perfectly happy relationship/marriage.

People who say the children aren't to blame, honestly either don't have kids or have never been married.

  Morokea  |  0

I still see the parents being to blame in almost all of those cases because they weren't able to parent their children responsibly, unless in the case of a special needs child.

  avoidthegirl  |  6

That may be true, but what kind of asshole parent actually tells the kid it's their fault? I think in many cases, these couples would've gotten a divorce somewhere down the road anyway, regardless of kids.

  Prawn_fml  |  2

Morokea, potential parents should consider the possibility of getting someone needing even more help than a "normal" kid before getting any. If they can't accept such a possibility, they should skip kids or adopt someone.

White667, people who can't handle kids shouldn't get kids. It's easy enough to avoid.

OP: How did your dad react to this? You might want to consider cutting off your mom, as others have said. Hopefully your dad is a better human than she is.

  Flutist  |  3

White667 you are a prick. It is never the child's fault for the divorce unless they committed murder or some horrible crime. Also special needs children are not at fault because they cannot help their needs. If your child is that bad, like super autistic or you are unable to care for it, there are schools you can pay or have a nurse take care of it. It is never the child's fault that their parents don't know how to fucking work their problems out.

By  Skull_300  |  0

Sounds like your mom is a Bitch and the world has to revolve around her. Best thing you can do is convince your dad to go thru with the divorce. Save his Soul! Good Luck to you also!