Disconnected

By Nothing for me? - 09/02/2023 00:00

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Today, after realizing just how stressful my week is going to be, I gave my girlfriend a massage, hoping for some stress relieving sex. I rubbed her for 30 minutes, then she said that she didn't feel "connected" with me and went to sleep. Isn't the point of sex to connect? FML
I agree, your life sucks 569
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Same thing different taste

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lalalaila777 24

next time state your needs plainly and respectfully, end with like wanna trade massages? expecting sex for massage without communication is foolish imo 🙈

Yeah, I think the mistake that you made is this: She knew immediately that the only reason why you gave the massage is because you wanted sex. It would be the same as if she gave you a ******* just because she wanted a new dress, not because she was into you. That would make you feel a little resentful, wouldn't it? Also, pressure is a mood killer for women. You have to make her want it. If you want more sex and a happier relationship, work on building emotional intimacy with her. The sex will follow the intimacy, not the other way round. So, do nice stuff with her, not for the sex but just for the sake of spending quality time with her and making her happy and bonding with her. Wash the dishes and steal flowers for her 'just because'. The sex will come.

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lalalaila777 24

next time state your needs plainly and respectfully, end with like wanna trade massages? expecting sex for massage without communication is foolish imo 🙈

That is physically connected. You rubbed her wrong so she was not emotionally connected to you. If you use sex for stress relief, don't have a girlfriend, hire hookers.

Yeah, I think the mistake that you made is this: She knew immediately that the only reason why you gave the massage is because you wanted sex. It would be the same as if she gave you a ******* just because she wanted a new dress, not because she was into you. That would make you feel a little resentful, wouldn't it? Also, pressure is a mood killer for women. You have to make her want it. If you want more sex and a happier relationship, work on building emotional intimacy with her. The sex will follow the intimacy, not the other way round. So, do nice stuff with her, not for the sex but just for the sake of spending quality time with her and making her happy and bonding with her. Wash the dishes and steal flowers for her 'just because'. The sex will come.

this type of b.s. "pay for sex" is why i recoil from shoulder rubs now.

KittenSneezes 1

sex does not mean love. can people please seek help if you believe that is the case. is it a connection? sure just like shoving a square block into a square hole is a connection. it fits, it goes in, technically it’s connected. doesn’t mean a damn thing though. stop trading favors for sex unless both parties agreed to the terms. stop expecting sex because you did something for your partner. both genders. do not care who you are.

No, as a matter of fact, that is not the point of sex.