By Anonymous - 31/3/2021 05:00

Barely legal

Today, my husband told me that he and my cousin had been seeing each other for the past two months. The cousin I took in because my aunt kicked her out for dropping out of high school. I’ve clothed, fed and paid bills for this homewrecker. She’s barely 18. FML
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By  waffle_rocket  |  11

The homewrecker here isn't your cousin, who is barely an adult and 100% dependent on you and your husband, but is in fact your husband who a) is the one who made the promise of monogamy to you and b) is taking advantage of a young woman who is under his responsibility and who probably felt that saying no would threaten her livelihood/is flattered an older man is interested in her. She's just barely 18. I get that you feel betrayed but why don't you turn those feelings toward your husband who not only cheated on you, but also took advantage of a young woman, barely an adult, who depends on him for a home and food.

By  vadarose  |  9

Your cousin is barely 18 your husband should have known better considering he’s the adult in this situation. There’s already such a huge power imbalance because of the fact that your cousin is dependent on you and your husband for shelter and food. Your cousin was taken advantage of by your husband. And honestly this sounds so suspect considering the fact that I’m pretty sure your husband had known your cousin before she turned 18 and was kinda just “waiting” for that before he pounced. Your cousin still has her high school mentality, your husband is the adult he should have acted like one.

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By  tounces7  |  27

Yeah, they haven't been "seeing each other". They've been banging. I doubt he hangs out with her anywhere outside the bedroom, because an older, grown adult generally doesn't share a lot in common with an 18 year old.

By  waffle_rocket  |  11

The homewrecker here isn't your cousin, who is barely an adult and 100% dependent on you and your husband, but is in fact your husband who a) is the one who made the promise of monogamy to you and b) is taking advantage of a young woman who is under his responsibility and who probably felt that saying no would threaten her livelihood/is flattered an older man is interested in her. She's just barely 18. I get that you feel betrayed but why don't you turn those feelings toward your husband who not only cheated on you, but also took advantage of a young woman, barely an adult, who depends on him for a home and food.

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  kfchicken_fml  |  28

let's not take all the responsibility off the girl. it's mostly the husband's fault though especially because the girls dependant on them. like it's 95% the husband's fault but the girl could have told the wife.

By  vadarose  |  9

Your cousin is barely 18 your husband should have known better considering he’s the adult in this situation. There’s already such a huge power imbalance because of the fact that your cousin is dependent on you and your husband for shelter and food. Your cousin was taken advantage of by your husband. And honestly this sounds so suspect considering the fact that I’m pretty sure your husband had known your cousin before she turned 18 and was kinda just “waiting” for that before he pounced. Your cousin still has her high school mentality, your husband is the adult he should have acted like one.

By  Isaac Shields  |  9

I feel for you the same thing happened with my brother and my wife after I took him in so he and his son wouldn't be homeless it's always a double whammy when it's family involved I'm sorry your'e going through this

By  Charlie Given  |  23

so sorry for your situation but it sounds like your husband has been grooming your cousin for a while not to mention your cousin probably felt pressured because she didn't want to be homeless

By  Matt Paugh  |  3

Yall disgust me jumping to conclusions with 0 context. The cousin very much could have seduced him. Yeah shes barely 18 so what. Are you trying to tell me based on the context here that a 17 year old had no idea she was sleeping with her cousins husband? Everyones on the he took advantage of her train with 0 context that was the case. Also shes barely 18 seeing each other for 2 months. You can be 18 for 2 months and still be considered barely 18. So all you judgmental bitches need to chill the fuck out you have 0 context for this post. blah blah she was groomed but no context to suggest that

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  32scotty32  |  6

Dude context or not the cousin didn't make an agreement to be monogamous. 18 for 2 months or 6 months, whatever, she is still a teenager and her brain won't finish developing for another 7-10 years dude. Rational decsision making is not the strong suite of 18 year olds.

He however, is clearly a grown adult who definitly knew better but took advantage of an opportunity whether she initiated it or he did. He was perfectly capable of saying no if that was the case. He doesn't have an excuse for that, he's married and a supposedly responsible adult.

Though honestly, the context is pretty freakin obvious. She was rejected by her own mom and in a very potentialy vunerable position while the supposedly mature adult with a monogamous agreement decided he'd rather bang 18 year old pussy than his own wife. Convenient how he comes clean before getting caught so he can lay out his own context and put the blame on her.

Try using your common sense before getting hyper offended and probably victim blaming. It's not a good look for you...

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  tounces7  |  27

Wait....you're not saying someone who thinks it's not inherently wrong to sleep with a legal adult is a pedo are you?

I mean he's in the wrong here because of him being married, but not due to her age. People can sleep with whoever the fuck they want so long as they're both legal consenting adults.

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  tounces7  |  27

That's not what a pedo is.

If he was grooming her that's one thing, but she may well have moved in after she'd already turned 18. It doesn't say how long she was living there.

By  Nhayaa2.0  |  10

As a french person, I found the beginning very interesting. But I eventually remembered that, in english, you have no gender so "cousin" is both male and female when in french we have "cousin/cousine". Then the FML lost all of its interest.