Torn
By VaveJessop - 05/05/2020 20:00
By VaveJessop - 05/05/2020 20:00
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There’s perks you are not considering, free acces to booze for 2 years with no hassle. Or are you just jealous she’s getting married before you?
Cut her loose. She's going to be no fun once she's married to a drunk. And isn't that what friends are really useful for?
I’m in the same position as you with an immature friend the same age, except for her trashy boyfriends never stay long enough to actually commit. She’s going to continue to make dumb decisions like this until she grows up. The best thing to do is to just let her know you think it’s a bad idea, but just accept that this is the kind of person she is.
Length of dating is irrelevant as well as age. I'm assuming he treats her like shit? And is he getting help for his alcoholism? If he treats her like shit and isn't getting help, tell her "I love you and can't honor this .." and tell her why. IF he's treating her right and getting help, be her maid of honor.
Also promise to be there for her if it goes totally sideways, as long as she accepts you're going to be completely honest with her.
Yeah, better hold her to that promise of never speaking to you again 'cuz you don't need that drama ESP. once it all goes to hell.
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I've been there and I've supported the terrible idea, making my concerns known, and I was still there when it fell apart. You can't stop her from doing what she'll do, but if you care about her you'll remain in a position to be there when she needs you.
I think it may be worth asking yourself if this friendship is worth that much in light of the fact she's clearly an idiot.