By AsianSweets - 24/03/2014 15:32 - Canada - Ajax
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OP here! Hey guys, so just to clarify, I don't have any daddy issues and I know who my father is lol. It just caught me off guard that my boyfriend asked me that so I thought about it literally first instead of how my boyfriend meant to say it for fun. But either way was a buzzkill.
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Those that due generally do actually have daddy issues what what I've noticed and looking for someone to fill in the father role as well as a partner. It's really weird when you start thinking about it. I knew someone who dated people old enough to be her father because she lost her father at a young age and wanted someone to fill in that role as well. The whole thing kinda creeps me out, date someone older fine, but if they are old enough to be your parent or young enough to be a sibling it seems kinda weird to me.
I like "How I Met Your Mother(s)" take on that question! its icky! Now when we had our first kid I started calling my husband daddy as a way for my son to pick up on it and not call him by his name. However had my husband ever asked me that question during sex or in a sexual way, I would be so grossed out!!
It's a kink like anything else. In most cases, I'd imagine that people don't actually think of their partner as their father, it's more of applying a dominant role and title to their dynamic. It may have underlying daddy issue origins in some cases, but some people just like get turned on by certain things. To each their own.
My mistake I meant young enough to be their child. Dunno how I missed that. An age gap can be good, but too big of an age gap can be bad. Most of us have gotten more responsible as we get older. That's why I think dating too much younger can be bad. Someone in their early 20's isn't thinking about things in the same way someone in there late 20's early 30's would be. However when you get older the age gap means less and less. 30 and 40 not so bad, but 21 and 30 can be a stretch.
Well there's lots of you saying ts gross and I can see why you'd think that. Personally I don't mind it. And NO I don't have daddy issues! I have a father and he is wonderful. So don't be saying women who enjoy that have daddy issues -,- if my bf asked, I wouldn't mind. Sounds kinda sexy to me. I wouldn't picture my actual dad though. My focus is always 100% on my bf.
Actually, I always thought of it more as a husband and wife kind of nickname. You know how when two people have children that call them mom and dad they call each other that, too. They'll use that name for each other because their kids recognize them by those names and not their actual first names.
No I didn't 3 of which were seeing married men and 1 did divorce because of it. It was rather sad and creepy. I also stopped hanging out with all of them for that reason. When I found out they were dating someone that much older and married I stopped hanging out with them. One of which that I know of is still dating men old enough to be her father.
I never understood why people thought it was "hot" to say that
That totally weirds me out too. I can't even have my boyfriend call me 'baby' without it creeping me out. Like you think of me as an infant? eep