This. You are lucky to do so

I don't see how what he did could be considered as him being abusive. It sounds to me like he was a jerk that wasn't interested in being with op. He didn't show up to the dates (probably figured she'd take the hint and never call again) then she sent a text and he used it as an excuse to dump her because he's the type of jerk that feels he needs an excuse, and one where the blame lies on her so nothing's his fault. Definitely a jerk that I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole, but I don't see how you can claim he'd probably be abusive after this one FML. Maybe I'm missing something in the FML, but I feel like people throw that word around way to lightly and any guy that's a jerk or mean can now be labeled as abusive, which is a pretty serious accusation in my book.

I agree, it sounds like he just doesn't like OP. But if he calls again and asks to hang out, then it's more of a sign that he would be abusive. It's the controlling factor. Abusive people usually want everything don on their terms, so they can text you whenever but you can't text them. Although a lot of the time, abusive people are very nice and charismatic at the beginning of the relationship. But I didn't get an abusive vibe from the fml, just an uninterested one.

Make sure he hears you laugh before you hang up though. That step is crucial!

No, organise a date and don't turn up