By help me! - 02/10/2010 14:26 - United Kingdom
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61- the OP isn't the other woman. the girl who would be her manager if hired is the other woman. but to the OP, talk to your current manager and ask politely if you could be transferred to another department. or section of your job. this isn't good for you because if she gets hired she'll have authority over your job. she may be unprofessional and turture you and overwork you just for the heck of it. not fair to you. at all. seeing as you don't get a say so as who gets hired and who doesn't, just explain. or if you can't transfer let your boss know in advance to avoid any conflict. don't quit. that just screams that you're still affected.
I'm sorry. that's really gotta suck. I worked with a guy my wife cheated on me with. very ackward.
If she does get the job that would be very awkward. But if she does get the job just respect her and be nice to her. You might turn out to be good friends. Chances are you probably weren't going to marry your ex-boyfriend anyways.
talk bad about her infront of your boss and he wont hire her!!!!
This could backfire in several big ways. For example, if the higher-ups really want to hire the "other woman" (hereafter referred to as OW), they could simply fire OP to prevent any drama. Or, if OW does get hired and conflicts arise, the higher-ups will be aware that OP didn't like the her from the start, possibly leading them to giving OW the benefit of the doubt, rather than OP. All OW has to say is "I didn't know he wasn't single" and she's off the hook, whereas OP looks like a passive-aggressive, vindictive bitch, and thus the likely cause of the conflict.