By betterpianist - 29/11/2016 21:04 - United States
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I'm gonna go ahead and say it seems she was just looking for an excuse to break up. Especially with one as ridiculous as that.
not necessarily. Not everyone is sane. I went out with a guy for 10 days, he was so overbearing and wouldn't accept the break up, it took me 40-ish days to get rid of him, he was stalking me, so was his cousin. I eventually called his mum, told her that if she doesn't pull back her son, i'm going to the police. That worked.
I think someone has to be either really dense or extremely socially inept to think breaking up with someone over a petty, conceited, and shallow reason is better than just flat out telling someone you are just not feeling it and want out. That does have to be done in a mean or accusatory way either. A lack of a spark does mean something is wrong the suitor. You can't just force love to happen. And I'd rather have someone mad at me for not giving the a "real chance" than for word to go around I broke up with a guy because he was better at me in something, and better for a good reason to. I mean. Look at all the comments regarding how this makes the girl seem... IDK. I've just seen this ' looking for an excuse' reason used before on FMLs and I can't for the life of me rationalize why finding an excuse that makes me look bad would be better than telling the person things just aren't clicking. Either way it's breaking up with someone and is gonna be awkward, so I'd figure people would go with the lesser evil of the choices buy apparently not?
#18, I had a similar experience, except we dated for less than a week. He was super creepy, wouldn't stop talking about his sexual fantasies, a TERRIBLE kisser, and honestly he was just a rebound since I had just broken up with my boyfriend of one year. He did not take it well, he kept trying to ask me if we could get back together, and he would text me weeks after. Now its been almost 5 years since then and I realized he goes to my college, and I feel like I been seeing him everywhere recently..
If you guys are young and you'll both end up competing for the same music scholarships, I can see why she wouldn't want to risk getting invested in a relationship that will probably turn contentious, resentful and bitter from rivalry. But aside from that very, very specific situation (which is probably a stretch), it's more likely she's an egomaniac you're better off without.
I been playing piano since I was 8 too (and I'm 20 now) while my boyfriend's brother has only taken one class, only been playing for a year, and he's already much better than me... it kinda annoys the crap outta me.. At least my actual boyfriend knows nothing about playing any instrument so I can still show off to him lol :)