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By Bad Mum? - / Sunday 31 March 2019 23:00 / United Kingdom - Harrow
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By  emeraldapostle  |  15

Hi OP, I lived in a split household, and let me tell you that you are doing nothing wrong. Chances are, if the father has shared custody, he spoils the son, and tries to make him want to live there more. The son probably tells you that he wants to live with the other parent because he knows that's leverage against you. Don't let it get to you, or else he wins

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By  davidfong  |  14

So let him go live with his abusive father and tell him if he goes he can’t come back.
But don’t really send him. Let him pack all his stuff and right before he thinks he’s about to leave tell him to get back in his room and put his stuff away

I hate people that abuse their kids or spouse.

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  bl3ur0z3  |  16

What, exactly will that do? If he thinks he wants to go to his father's, he'll see that as breaking a promise. Which is essentially what it'll be, whether it was a good promise to make or not.

By  James Acosta  |  8

beat his ass like his dad use to yours!

By  emeraldapostle  |  15

Hi OP, I lived in a split household, and let me tell you that you are doing nothing wrong. Chances are, if the father has shared custody, he spoils the son, and tries to make him want to live there more. The son probably tells you that he wants to live with the other parent because he knows that's leverage against you. Don't let it get to you, or else he wins

By  bl3ur0z3  |  16

My son is 17. For years I cried myself to sleep when he would tell me that he can't wait for his dad to get custody, he can't wait until he never has to see me again, he hates me etc. It was always because I would discipline while his father would reward.... Right now, he doesn't speak to his father at all, he tells me everyday he loves me, he's graduating early, he does his chores and then some without complaint. I can't believe all we went through, but this is where we ended up. Hang in there, you've got a long road ahead of you, but he'll come around.

By  TxKitten79  |  9

I fell you. It's a phase, and it will pass. My 13 year old went through it at one point "I cant6wait till I'm 14 and can tell the judge I want to love with my dad." Eventually he realized his sperm donor is worthless. He now doesn't want to even see his father. I know it hurts, o.p. But what he's going through is normal, and as he gets older he'll see truths and realize which parent really loves him.