By Anonymous - 22/06/2010 20:12 - United States
Add a comment - Reply to : #
Wow. My husband and I just got married today. He's also in the military. And he could care less about the money. I mean yea, it's going to help with bills for our house and stuff but we got married because we love each other. And let me tell you. being apart is the hardest thing ever. so if he's only thinking about the money don't bother in putting yourself through a long distance relationship. seriously.
Welcome to military love life. Just do both yourselves a favor and break it off, you'll be divorced within a year anyways. What branch is he in? If it's the navy, he'll be bangin a thai hooker his first shore leave, but that's prob about the same time you and the rest of the courageous wives left back stateside will be bringin guys back from the local college bar
#201; That's definitely not how all "courageous wives" are, 90% of them maybe. I've been in the active army for over 2.5 years, I'm married to an active duty soldier, 14 months now and I would never cheat on him, especially not with a drunk dumb ass lil college boy. OP; Gettin married for money is no reason to get married. I hate how today's society looks at marriage; "it's just a piece of paper", "it doesn't mean anything", "it's easy money", etc etc blah blah bullshit. In the not too distant past; it was a sacred vow between 2 people to LOVE eachother no matter what, to spend the rest of your lives together, to be monogomous, to only have intimate relations with your spouse, through sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, so long as you both shall live. If he wants more money tell him to get a better job!! Plus to top it off, it will get him kicked out cuz fraud is a felony and highly frowned upon in the military. Also, adultry will get him dishonorably discharged and possible jail time :) give him fair warning of that, maybe he'll change his mind...
My Sister-in-Law is going through the same thing girl. we feel you.
well if he was gunna ask u anyways in the future why not now and I know how it is my brother did that he'd be making enough to get u twenty diamond rings if u go in single and get married u only get half as much as if u enter basic married he isn't being a douche it's money u won't find anywhere else in this suck ass economy
wow, that whole "he'd be making enough to buy you 20 diamond rings" just made me seriously aggrivated and sick to my stomach. Is that all it is? Material gains?? Disgusting... The amount of money you get ENTERING basic training just doesn't depend on if you're married. It depends on what rank you are as well. A single soldier going through basic who entered as a specialist (E-4) will make probably just as much as a married private (E-1). To get in as a specialist, you need college. Also, you could enlist as an officer and make alot more but you need more college if not a degree and OCS(officer canidate school). You don't start making real good money being married in the military until after basic training and/or your job schooling(it depends), you live off post and get your BAH(basic housing allowance) which also varies according to rank and cost of living in that area. And no; you don't get "only half" of the money you'd make if you got married after he joined then if getting married before he was already in. For 2 service members to be married before or after enlisting, the higher rank of the 2 will get FULL BAH while the other gets PARTICIAL which is about HALF, on top of your regular paycheck. For a soldier and a civilian, the soldier will claim his/her spouse as a dependant, getting SOME money for it and he/she would also draw full BAH. Doesn't matter when they get married, before or after enlisting, it's the same. I don't know where you get your information from but woah is it wrong. Go ahead and ask your brother to ask his senior ranks if I'm right or not.