Today, my boyfriend lost his temper with me and complained that my "constant" apologies for upsetting him drive him insane, and without thinking, I said I was sorry. He hung up and I haven't heard from him since. FML
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cupcakechick 17
hey guys, OP here, my bf is an amazingly great guy, and he cares about me very much, and Its just I have low self esteem, so even if I bump into him, ill apologize over and over again, and it bugs him because im always beating my self up, we have great communication, so later that day he called me back and apologized for being rude, im the luckiest girl alive to have a bf like mine :)
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AwakwardIsMe 24
I do the same thing. I literately apologize for everything and people are always annoyed by it :/
xXHollowIchigoXx 17
Wow... I'm so sorry to hear that OP.
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Comments (92)
Kuhu1993 21
Oh i get, Even I tend to apologize a lot.Sorry, but why would he get soooo mad???? Your apology that time was necessary. Sorry ,that's what I think. :P
kurk626 11
The "sorry" in your comment just seems so forced.
Kuhu1993 21
That is exactly what I was aiming for.
cupcakechick 17
because he was under a lot of stress from school,
hancesolo 7
It's all very well telling OP to 'stop apologising' but it isn't that easy! OP I feel ya, I'm a compulsive apologiser to the point where it starts driving me insane which makes me manic and even more annoying which makes me apologise. Never-ending cycle. If he's a good guy I'm sure he'll call you back soon, sounds like you both have stuff to work on.
cupcakechick 17
he did, we have great communication
captainObviously 15
Be sorry for yourself. And be sorry for your non-existent back bone.
ohioain 18
YDI because over using the phrase "I'm sorry," it starts to lose its value. Say it rarely so when people hear you say it it actually means something.
davincidasecond 24
As someone who used to be like that, I feel your pain. I think that you just need to up your self esteem, not be as submissive and realize that some things aren't because of you. It's a day by day thing but you'll get it eventually. Maybe time away from your boyfriend will help too, because something tells me he could be part of the problem (I could be wrong, just throwing that possibility out there).
cupcakechick 17
hes not, hes a great guy, hes very understanding
madst0rk 4
Literally the must annoying thing you can do. You deserve this
fleur_de_fevrier_fml 22
OP, I see 2 scenarios here: either you're annoying as hell and keep upsetting him on purpose, or your boyfriend is some narky fecker that gets upset for anything and you feel responsible and apologize to make him feel better. I tend to think this is the second option. Usually narky people don't apologize for their behavior. It looks like your guy wants a girl who "punches" back instead of a carpet, hence that argument. Either way, I don't think it's a very healthy relationship. However, what you can learn from that is not to let yourself being walked all over. Apologizing when you did something wrong, yes. Apologizing because your boyfriend is on his man-period and is ranting at anything, no. Have some spine, guurrl! :)
cupcakechick 17
my bf does nothing to make me apologize to him, even if I bumped him id apologize
Ms_ValS 27
I have to say. I have met people who say sorry so many times, so profusely apologising for the smallest things. It's annoying. To have this person be a huge part of my life would be far too annoying.
grashopper8 7
Let him go then. His issues will only get worse. It sucks and it hurts but better now than later. Sorry he's such a jerk, you don't deserve that.
cupcakechick 17
whoa, its not his issue, its mine
CaptnNorway 10
But that is annoying though ... You have to stand up for yourself, if you say sorry when it isn't your fault it's just sad.