Today, my boyfriend asked why I never let him go down on me. I told him that it doesn't do much for me, even though it really does. I didn't have the courage to tell him that it's because he acts like a rabid dog when he does. FML
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So yes, I agree that I completely deserve it because I won't be blunt with him. I just don't want him to get insecure about it, like he has with other intimate things. I drop hints by not showing response when he starts to act like I'm a chew toy, but it doesn't work. I have however, brought up the idea of watching movies with him, he's agreed to it, so maybe I'll lightly drop the bomb there.... But all in all, he's a great man and an exceptional lover--just not with that one bit of foreplay. Thanks for the laughs and opinions!
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rosha267 21
If you're comfortable enough to have sex with him you should be comfortable enough to talk to him about it
JMichael 26
Well maybe if you say something he could improve. Can't expect improvement without communication.
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Pyrilamine 1
I didn't click on the yoy deserve it for you but for him for Bein dog about it
tayymeds 23
So yes, I agree that I completely deserve it because I won't be blunt with him. I just don't want him to get insecure about it, like he has with other intimate things. I drop hints by not showing response when he starts to act like I'm a chew toy, but it doesn't work. I have however, brought up the idea of watching movies with him, he's agreed to it, so maybe I'll lightly drop the bomb there.... But all in all, he's a great man and an exceptional lover--just not with that one bit of foreplay. Thanks for the laughs and opinions!
animalxcrackers 20
just tell him the truth. not that he's shitty at it, but tht he needs to be more gentle. tell him when you dont like something. guys are great like that-- they want to learn how to be masters at it. communication is key.
tishtashbat 16
Have you tried suggesting things like 'could you maybe try it a little slower/calmer/more gentle/teasing/word of your choice?' and then reinforce that you like it so much more when he does it like that? You don't have to be blunt, just ask if he could try it a different way because you think it might turn you on more - if you phrase it as 'I'd like to try it like this because I think I'd like it' not 'you're bad at this, do it differently', he'll probably be happy to try! :P
how_to_implode 17
I think demonstrating for him can be a great idea. With your hand on yourself, or with your tongue on some part of his body.
sweetprettykitty 10
No! Don't do it while watching 'movies' he'll take that as he's doing it right...have you ever watched those?! My god, it makes me hurt just thinking about how savage they are in pornos lol
Unluckymeow 9
I would have to say that dropping hints wasn't the best idea, don't beat around the bush. Hopefully you'll be able to talk to him about it soon and he doesn't take it too hard. Just try and find the right words to express how you like things.
outoftown 27
65 - Don't know why you're voted down. Excellent suggestion. Demonstrating on him (say, nipples) will let him FEEL the speed and intensity you want to feel.
AninOnin 24
OP, I completely understand why you're afraid to hurt his feelings. I've been in that situation before, and guys can be SO insecure about that kind of thing... But in the end, honesty is always the best policy. Say what you mean, what you feel. Be firm, but not mean. He'll appreciate it in the long run :)
sweetprettykitty 10
Don't know why I got thumbed down....if anyone has really watched a lot of **** you would see they don't necessarily 'take it easy' on anyone.
lightburns 10
I'd recommend saying that everyone is different - you don't need to tell him that he's bad at oral. You just need to tell him what you personally like and dislike. No feelings harmed! Of course, once he has learnt, he'll likely understand that he was poor at it before. But by then no feelings will be hurt either, because he'll have the confidence of knowing that he's good at it *now*.
militarybrat 21
If you are in to it, do a little light dom/sub thing. Where he can pleasure you, but only how YOU tell him to.
Fervens 5
Don't let the pity keep you from being honest. It keeps people from learning. It's what we do to children and they don't end up too well when we do that. You shouldn't be treating a grown person that way. Just say it (delicately and respectfully) and teach him. It'll serve better.
doglover100 29
I know you don't want to hurt his feelings but it's your sex life too. You have a say if something makes you uncomfortable.
Stheno 14
It's best to speak the truth and tell him. I tell my other half when he does things right and wrong and he does the same :) good luck op
greeneyedx 23
I'm kind of in the same boat. I've only had one guy give me oral- my boyfriend of 18 months. I don't enjoy it when he does, but I haven't been very direct in saying so. But he is aware I am weird about germs (more specifically saliva and tongues), so I use that as a reason to avoid oral. Good luck though! Try giving him tips.
vikky538 29
though the fml is funny..all you need is just communicate with him..
buckdharma 38
Send Rover off to obedience school. They'll teach him commands like sit, beg, find, down and stay.
outoftown 27
Add fetch and he'll be damn near perfect ;)
migmit 11
How the hell is he supposed to get better if he doesn't get feedback?
picturescrazy 24
Haha, pretty much every guy is like that until someone finally tells him he's doing it wrong :) Just let him know what actually works for you and what doesn't!
RadikulRam 16
#35 I think he got banned for a pussy joke mate.
Cr8zier 2
It's not about having the heart to tell him; it's about having the confidence to work with him to improve for both of you. or smack him with a newspaper.. what do i know.
FMyLemonade 1
I think the real FML is that today you realized you'd rather miss out on a big part of lovemaking, a part that you admit you enjoy, rather than communicate with your boyfriend.
sailorarctic 22
YDI for not opening your mouth and talking to your boyfriend about this. If you can't communicate with your partner a relationship is doomed to fail. Period. and that means communicating in all things including things that are uncomfortable.