By tayymeds - 12/03/2014 07:44 - United States - Mission Viejo

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Today, my boyfriend asked why I never let him go down on me. I told him that it doesn't do much for me, even though it really does. I didn't have the courage to tell him that it's because he acts like a rabid dog when he does. FML
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tayymeds 23

So yes, I agree that I completely deserve it because I won't be blunt with him. I just don't want him to get insecure about it, like he has with other intimate things. I drop hints by not showing response when he starts to act like I'm a chew toy, but it doesn't work. I have however, brought up the idea of watching movies with him, he's agreed to it, so maybe I'll lightly drop the bomb there.... But all in all, he's a great man and an exceptional lover--just not with that one bit of foreplay. Thanks for the laughs and opinions!

Top comments

rosha267 21

If you're comfortable enough to have sex with him you should be comfortable enough to talk to him about it

JMichael 25

Well maybe if you say something he could improve. Can't expect improvement without communication.

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missnuthin 10

have him watch the Key & Peel sketch about it.

sammieshortcake 15

Let him have another go at it, and when he starts to get crazy give him some redirection. "I like it when you _____" "will you slow down/be more gentle" and when he does it don't be afraid to show him how much you like it. He'll get the hint ;)

If youre going to watch movies with him watch lesbian ones, or female orientated hetero movies, Im amazed at what some guys in these movies thinks counts as oral sex....

This is totally a TDI. If you want it to change, don't just avoid it, tell him.

I put YDI because you need to learn communication. Without him knowing if he is doing something wrong he cant correct it and you will never be satisfied.

lil_mars 1

OP, instead of having the talk, you could just have him go down on you and when he gets rabid, instruct him! Say things like, "be gentle/softer, baby" or "baby, slow down" and then be vocal when he complies (an excited "yes!" Usually does it). Is that easier than having the talk?

Sometimes honesty is the best policy. I bet he doesn't say anything either.

Dafaq?!? Most women bitch about men not going down on them. Or them not doing it correctly. Your man goes down and pleases you appropriately and you deny him because he's rigorous and "acts like a dog"..... What the hell is wrong with you??!!?!?