By tayymeds - 12/03/2014 07:44 - United States - Mission Viejo

Today, my boyfriend asked why I never let him go down on me. I told him that it doesn't do much for me, even though it really does. I didn't have the courage to tell him that it's because he acts like a rabid dog when he does. FML
I agree, your life sucks 53 443
You deserved it 12 593

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tayymeds 23

So yes, I agree that I completely deserve it because I won't be blunt with him. I just don't want him to get insecure about it, like he has with other intimate things. I drop hints by not showing response when he starts to act like I'm a chew toy, but it doesn't work. I have however, brought up the idea of watching movies with him, he's agreed to it, so maybe I'll lightly drop the bomb there.... But all in all, he's a great man and an exceptional lover--just not with that one bit of foreplay. Thanks for the laughs and opinions!

Top comments

rosha267 21

If you're comfortable enough to have sex with him you should be comfortable enough to talk to him about it

JMichael 25

Well maybe if you say something he could improve. Can't expect improvement without communication.


rosha267 21

If you're comfortable enough to have sex with him you should be comfortable enough to talk to him about it

buttcramp 21

I totally agree! Your partner needs to know how you honestly feel about things in the bedroom (and vise versa) if you want the relationship to thrive and last.

Exactly. He may be offended but he shouldn't take it too badly and maybe he could work on his technique. If he does flip out or something, you don't need to deal with that. But lying is never ok.

masta1080 5

tell him...and maybe he can work on his technique. He'll never fix the problem if he doesn't know about it. Sounds like you're both missing out

It's about feelings though. It's easy to say that she should just tell him what she thinks but it's another thing to know she could be hurting the feelings of someone she loves. I have a similar problem with my boyfriend (not the dog reference but that he just doesn't know what I like) and I know I should tell him, but he tries so hard and I can't bring myself to hurt him. We do both need to woman up though OP, but I understand why it's difficult. Good luck with your conversation! ✌

NiceGuysDoWin 21

There is a difference between being honest and being rude. Saying something like, "it would be better for me if you weren't so aggressive." or "I really prefer oral sex that is gentle" instead of "you act like a rabid dog." You can be honest with your partner about sex while still taking their feelings into account. Most people would rather know and be able to please their partner instead of just assuming that they are doing a good job and finding out later that their partner has been lying to them. OP, this is your fault for lying and not telling him what you like.

zeep92 18

But seriously though, have you ever tried talking to a guy about his sexual habits? No matter how gently you do it he will get all weird about it. That's just what happens!

Three things: A-i agree with most people in this reply thread that telling him is better then lying, B- 90 no most guys do not react that way to helpful criticism, and C- 64 how the hell did you do a piece sign emote?

buttcramp 21

90, you can always just say to your partner "everyone likes different things, so while your past partners have liked what you've been doing, it doesn't do as much for me as it did for them. Here's what gets me going..." Then tell your partner all the things they're doing right! After they've had their moment of glory, say simply what you don't like. That way the conversation seems like they are doing ALL these things well and just one or two things wrong. Feelings are less likely to be hurt. If it's awkward, you probably haven't been together long enough to be having sex on a regular basis. You should build somewhat of a relationship prior to getting physical, for your own protection emotionally and from potential STDs.

I think he will also appreciate you telling him that in the long run , it'll give him more confidence knowing he's upping through the ranks of mastering the bed room ^^

tell him he needs to suck the clit not ravage it

@91 It's just on my phones keyboard, I wasn't even sure anyone would see it! It's an LG G2

✌️Any smartphone with an Emoji keyboard should have it ;)

JMichael 25

Well maybe if you say something he could improve. Can't expect improvement without communication.

Agree and he was clearly opening the line of communication.

CommentModerated 17

A little guidance can go a long way.

Even though it's not really that big of a deal you shouldn't lie to your significant other tell him the truth and he can start practicing :)

crazytwinsmom 25

Practice makes perfect, and in this case is a lot of fun!

If that's not a big deal, what part of a relationsip IS a big deal?

jazzy_123 20

well if the biggest deal in your relationship is sex, maybe you need to reevaluate your priorities.

frizz101 22

The biggest part of any relationship is the emotional bond, 78, after all sex is important in your relationship with your SO, but the emotional bond is far greater.

This is why people have bad sex. Some honesty would be really helpful for you here, OP. Your lady bits will thank you

Well if you wanna get pleasured you better let him know! Part of being together is telling each other your personal do's and don'ts.

Tell him he goes too crazy and you just want subtle movements. Being honest is the best way to be.

You're never gonna see an improvement if you don't say what's wrong.

Tell him your womanly parts are sensible and that he needs to follow your instructions. If he refuses or acts childish, he just might not be boyfriend material anyway.

strawberrywine22 30

Yeah! Guys who don't know exactly what every female wants in the way of oral sex are the WORST BOYFRIENDS EVAR. DUMP THAT FOO NAO.

I always see your comments getting thumbed down, you think that would be a hint to stop putting your two cents into everything.