By stressedmom36 - 13/08/2015 23:50 - United States - Tampa
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#34 what do you mean he doesn't know better? I hope you didn't mean he "doesn't know better" as far as kissing boys. People know what gender(s) they're attracted to at a very young age. If you're being rude about the situation you shouldn't have said anything. He's a four year old boy. He shouldn't have to grow up believing his preference is wrong.
76-- I totally agree with you about it being innocent (and cute), but, as a former daycare worker, I can kind of understand why the daycare did what it did. All it takes is for one kid to say something to a parent who will totally freak out. Imagine one of the boys telling a homophobic parent another boy kissed him. Or the parent of a little girl who decides the boy is sexually harassing their child. It's possible OP's son kissed a kid whose parent notoriously overreacts about everything. Daycares are businesses-- if a parent causes a stink about something, the daycare could lose money and get poor word-of-mouth. By sending OP's son home, they can at least show the other parents that they're being proactive (even though sending him home isn't the best way to handle it, from an education stand point, it would be enough to possibly shut up an angry parent) Working in daycare, I saw a lot of ridiculous decisions made just to appease parents (especially when it involved conflicts between children). I could be wrong, but working in daycare, I saw stuff like this all the time. And we always knew which kids' parents would throw a shit fit over the littlest thing. Ridiculous? Yes, but it's most likely because they're afraid of parents. And sorry for the long comment.... :)
Things are getting so out of hand with the way people react to things. When my son was 17 MONTHS OLD he looked up a baby girls skirt and the daycare wanted him removed for "sexual harassment" and asked the girls parents if they wanted to press charges. The parents laughed at them and said no but can you imagine otherwise? I was furious with the daycare!!
A little boy about 6 years old, on our block got caught "playing doctor" by a little girl's parents. They traumatized the little boy, made him go to child therapy. Told him he is forbidden to play with any of the other children unsupervised. As if hes some kind of sexual predator. If he wasnt messed up before he is now.
I can't imagine a child being charged with sexual harassment, however, daycare workers (and teachers) are mandatory reporters. We're trained to look out for unusual, aggressive, or advanced sexual behavior in children-- it can be an indication that the child is being abused. If the child was questioned, it was most likely to find out if that child had been abused. The tricky part, especially with toddlers and younger children, is for the daycare worker or teacher to distinguish between what's normal sexual curiosity/activity and what could be an indicator that the child has been sexually abused. When I worked in daycare, we had a four year old boy who kept offering girls a quarter to see their underwear. That's kind of normal-- and I'd seen variations of it from other kids before. Then he made me the same offer and it really creeped me out. After a lot of thought (and discussion with my supervisor), I made a report to DCFS. During their investigation, they discovered the boy's uncle had been molesting him (the parents had no clue and were grateful to me for filing a report). Little kids do all kinds of weird sexual things-- and it's mostly just curiosity (I, or anybody who's worked with children, could tell you crazy stories). But sometimes there are darker reasons for the behavior. As a teacher, you always hope you're wrong and overreacting, but there's always that fear that you're right.
At least he does not discriminate.
He is a serial kisser