By jake - 27/06/2009 21:11 - Denmark
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You were too nice earlier. You've got to go full on asshole if you expect this to work.
Of course it isn't always the case. But this was the approach he was trying to take, and he failed hard at it. He would've been better off if he'd been a douche initially. She wouldn't have seen him as annoying, rather, she'd be interested because of his apparent lack of interest in her. You always want what you can't have. Assholes win in the short term. Unless what you really want is a string of short term relationships over the course of your youth (and increasing lonlieness as you age), it's definitely not the way to go about it. Nice guys are heartbroken as adolescents, only to find love when women get over their attention stage learn to value decency. So keep that in mind the next time some girl runs of with a jerk - that jerk is going to die alone.
147 - this is unfortunately true. 174 - Because when they say they want nice guys, they mean they want attractive nice guys. Unfortunately, being attractive means you're far more likely to be an asshole in some way, male or female. Arrogant, vain, what have you, you're more likely to be it when you're attractive. It's because it makes you feel like you're better than people. Now, I'm not saying attractive people are all (or even mostly) jerks or douches or whatever, but I AM saying that they're more LIKELY to be... ESPECIALLY below age thirty, but mostly below 25 or so... Hell, I'm pretty and I'm an arrogant bitch when I'm not being as nice as I can be. -shrugs- It just happens. Plus, it seems to me that a lot of the self-proclaimed "nice guys" complaining about this aren't really that nice. They're just pretending to be nice to make up for the fact they've got nothing else going for them... and yes, they give ACTUAL nice guys a REALLY bad name. Even if there aren't that many selfish, worthless assholes pretending to be sweet to get in some gal's (or guy's...) pants (and failing miserably, of course), they definitely make it SEEM like they're in the 30% category, because they seem to be the ones who get around the most (and by get around, I don't mean getting laid, because that ain't gonna happen; true colors show very easily with folks like them). Besides, 172 had it right on. Jerks usually have lots of short term relationships early on in life, and nice guys find that perfect gal (or close enough, anyway) later in life. Guess which category ends up being happy a lot more often? This usually goes hand in hand with bitches and nice girls, too. I wonder why.
Isn't there a correlation? There's something about being nice that's annoying; something about being mean that's suave. It seems to me to be the girl equivalent of guys claiming that "Looks don't matter much..." through their teeth. (Admittedly that was a pretty darn big generalisation.)
Why are you and this girl Facebook friends if she's referring to you as "that guy"? Also, seriously... The silent treatment? Really? How old are you?
how is silent treatment immature or bad? i guess it could be bad because she could see it as being mean but that is far from meaning he deserves it and to anyone else commenting about stalking: HOW IS TALKING TO HER ON FACEBOOK STALKING HER? facebook is meant for friends to talk online so it cant be stalking because they were only talking and nothing like him sneaking into her house while she's sleeping which is obviously creepy she could have obviously blocked him if she wanted to though she could have meant someone else
k, well the person before me doesn't know how to condense their message into a reasonable space, so i'll say my take on things.. Giving the silent treatment can of course be seen as immature, but if you're someone who has tried it, you KNOW that it works wonders. The person starts wondering what's up, starts caring more and being more attentive, and wants to get closer to you. HOWEVER, in my experience, this works perfectly well with guys who care about a woman in the first place. it does NOT work with guys who don't give a shit to start with, or with men using it on women.