Gatekeeping grief

By Anonymous - 21/12/2021 07:59

Today, after my cousin recently died, my aunt basically told me that I shouldn't be sad, because we fought. FML
I agree, your life sucks 974
You deserved it 100

Same thing different taste

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Grief can make people stupid sometimes. Your aunt probably doesn’t really think that, she’s just using you as a convenient target for her misplaced emotions. It’s easier to deal with “It’s your fault” than “it’s nobody’s fault, it just happened”, after all. That said, it absolutely sucks for you, having to deal with that and your own grief on top. I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I’m wishing you the best.

Hopefully you can have your cousin's stuff. That will signify that you really won the war!

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Grief can make people stupid sometimes. Your aunt probably doesn’t really think that, she’s just using you as a convenient target for her misplaced emotions. It’s easier to deal with “It’s your fault” than “it’s nobody’s fault, it just happened”, after all. That said, it absolutely sucks for you, having to deal with that and your own grief on top. I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I’m wishing you the best.

Hopefully you can have your cousin's stuff. That will signify that you really won the war!