By childofcrazy - 25/06/2015 20:03 - United States - Milwaukee

Today, I went to visit my mother after many years. Her hoarding has gotten so bad that now the house is entirely filled with junk and garbage, and she is camping out in the jungle of a backyard, cooking on a cauldron over a fire and shitting in the compost pile, with no working heat or water. FML
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Many thanks to those who understand hoarding behavior and who defended me. In case you were wondering: 1. I have tried to help my mother for over 20 years and she refuses help, professional or otherwise. 2. I exaggerated how long it has been. I have seen my mother many times, usually she visits me. She has not allowed into my childhood home since I left for college 12 years ago. It has just gotten worse now. She really is living in the backyard, this is not an exaggeration. 3. I am currently working on what to do for her; I am trying to get her some help in this crisis, even if that includes forceful removal. 4. Humor helps me deal with tragic circumstances. This is why I chose to share this ridiculously sad story. 5. Hoarding is never the child's fault. I have been living this down and getting over guilt my whole life. 6. I can only imagine being on TV would be akin to suicide for her, as hoarding is a secretive problem. 6. Kids, if you live in a cluttered landfill of a house, your parents' hoarding is its own mental disorder. It is an addiction. Childrenofhoarders.com is a great first resource. There is help. 7. Yes, I think my mom is probably doing spells in the backyard. I gotta get this shit figured out before winter. She is in Iowa.

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IcemistDragon 20

You really should get her some help,she can't keep living like that even if she thinks it's acceptable.

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GaryWilson 2

She is a hoarder, Vikky. She's severely mentally ill. It's entirely likely she wasn't able to care for OP as a child, or that she wasn't able to have a healthy relationship with her as an adult. OP probably broke contact to protect herself.

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middlenamefrank 8

Amen. If you've ever had a hoarder in your life, you'll understand just how insidious of a disease it is. It destroys people from the inside out, and for the people around them, often the only alternative is to separate themselves from the chaos.

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tweetbaby14 18

Why is this your fml? You're only there to say hi. You get to leave she however has to stay in it. Don't make this about you, dude.

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ally8 21

Sounds like an intervention and a professional cleanup/ counselling is in order. You could call Hoarders at A&E and have it televised :)

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vikky538 28

Its time you take care of your mother!!!

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middlenamefrank 8

I'm so sorry, OP. Hopefully you'll be able to find her some help that will finally convince her she needs to accept some changes into her life. Hoarding is a very, very serious disease.

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oliviaaclairee 13

I guess "my mom's a witch" takes a whole new meaning... The literal one.

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Angelrose2004 17

My husband is a hoarder. Every time I get rid of crap, he brings more in. It is quite irritating! I put some of the stuff on the front porch and told him that he didn't have to get rid of it. But he needed to find a place to store it... preferrably a storage shed. He called his friend and told him I was kicking him out. He refuses to get help, cuz he doesn't think he has a problem and needs everything. I've finally started throwing things away that I know he won't miss while he's gone. I threw away an old coffee pot the other day (never once have I seen him drink coffee). He noticed. Oops.

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Dontmindmehere 4

Ya'll should get hoarders: buried alive to go to your/the hoarder's house. Or at least see a professional. It's a real part of having OCD but it's really hard to understand why people do the things they do.

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