Unless you told him how you feel, he is allowed to sleep with whomever he wants. Sucks to be you, OP

Even if they had told him about their feelings, he's still allowed to sleep with whomever he wants.

The "no one has the right to control your body except you" thing goes both ways.

even if she did tell him he still can sleep with whoever he wants.

I would see if you could find a replacement for yourself on the lease. Sometimes others will agree as long as the rent is still paid.

Many places don't allow subletters, which is what you are suggesting

You don't always get what you want, sometimes others do, right in front of you. You'll just have to be an adult about it.

Simple solution: A knife, saw, and some garbage bags.

Just kidding. In seriousness, just endure the pain.

You forgot, a close friend that won't ask you ant questions, when you ask them to expose of some garbage bags.

Life is unfair, learn to deal with it like a grown up.

May the guy you like will insert himself on the lease like he has inserted himself into your roommate.

Have you guys discussed this guy before? If so, your roommate is a jerk, if not I’m sorry for that unfortunate/unlucky situation.

Discussed? He is a human being who is allowed to do what he wants. The roommate is allowed the same. Even if the OP told the homemade she liked him, it doesn't matter. They are free to do as they please. What difference does it make if she did say something?

Basic respect for the people in your life comes to mind.

And treating someone like they are a piece of property that you can own is respectful... how, exactly?

Who said piece of property? Who said the man couldn’t sleep with the roommate? You guys are making some big assumptions off of a one sentence reply. If I cared about someone, and they shared that they were interested in someone I could take that into consideration and make sure she doesn’t walk in on us having sex. IF (note the if) the roommate mentioned the interest it seems like a huge dick move to sleep with him where they can be walked in on (like the living room). That’s where the lack of respect and being a jerk comes in. You two might want to think about how this situation could’ve occurred in a less damaging or hurtful way (locked door?), instead of assuming I said they can’t sleep with each other.

The fact you don't see how that's treating the guy- and the roommate as well, to a lesser extent- like property is a bit exasperating. Especially since your first two comments did in fact imply that the roommate was completely a jerk if they knew about OP's feelings. You're basically saying that the roommate and crush should have to sneak around and hide their relationship- whatever it may be- because OP didn't inform the crush of their feelings. What if the roommate had a crush on him first? Were they supposed to just go "well, I guess I'll just surrender to you"? Trying to control someone's behavior because their wants interfere with yours isn't respecting them as a person.

And "dorm" means the entire unit- meaning that OP very well could have walked into the roommate or crush's room, particularly since many dorms don't allow permanent modifications to be made, and the individual bedrooms don't always have locks.

The fact that you can’t step outside your opinion to see how it could be done in a less disrespectful way is exasperating. Even without locks- put a sock on the doorknob. Pretty basic dorm code. No one wants to walk in on anyone having sex- the fact that it happened at all is reflective of someone who isn’t courteous to those around them, regardless of who they are sleeping with.

Don't want to walk in on someone having sex? Use one of the simplest, most common, most universal and most common sensical pieces of etiquette in the world: knock instead of barging in like some kind of heathen.

Wow. Let’s just leave it at “thank goodness you’re not my roommate”.

Asexual and aromantic, so what your implying would be a problem wouldn't be, if the misfortune befell us to share a dorm. Also, failing to knock on a bedroom door is basically taking responsibility for anything you see, or you would have knocked before entering. And since OP is sharing the dorm, they in fact have a social obligation to knock, because opening the door without knocking means that they could expose one of their roommates in the buff to anyone by the door.

Oh, and it doesn't matter how many indications of the vertical tango you put on the door if the person ignores them and comes in anyway.

I didn’t imply it. I said it. Thank God you aren’t my roommate.

Wow, you have no understanding of the etiquette for sharing a living space. I feel sorry for anyone that lives with you, because in addition to your lack of comprehension for the single most basic and universal rule of etiquette in regards to entering a room, but exactly the type of person that refuses to take responsibility for issues that your lack of manners cause. Aside from your inability to understand why there is a responsibility to knock when sharing living space, you also apparently can't comprehend that OP apparently didn't knock because it would have avoided the entire situation.

You also made it very apparent why your user name relates to math rather than English, with your inability to comprehend my post, particularly in relation to the section about what you were implying. You would be a miserable, bullying roommate to have. I sincerely hope no one winds up in the position to have to deal with you as a house mate, as you would have them on the verge of a mental breakdown within a few months, between your flawed comprehension of roommate etiquette and need to lash out with disproportionate aggression against those who disagree with you.

K. Been living happily with my husband for 7 years, but you totally have me figured out based off of 4 comments on FML. You’re so smart, why am I even arguing with you? You’re clearly superior in every way.

better join in and take hm back

You guys weren’t dating, so it’s not like he’s cheating on you. It kinda sucks, but not really worth getting all bent out of shape over and refusing to talk to them anymore.

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