By Anonymous - 12/11/2009 20:34 - Canada
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Love sucks. Same exact thing happened to me. That year of college was pure hell, and I eventually moved out as they got engaged last year :/ I'm the maid of honor, and I'm still completly in love with him.
I IS A TACO! "He says he's so in love He's finally got it right I wonder if he knows He's all I think about at night He's the reason for the teardrops on my guitar The only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing star He's the song in the car I keep singing Don't know why I do"
Get over it and him moron. He obviously belongs to someone else. To want is to be weak. It's your fault and you deserve everything that happens to you.
This kinda makes you regret not telling him while you could huh? Yeah well, sorry :( move out?
I agree, he belongs to someone else. You need to get over him before you ruin their relationship.
Seriously. And for whatever reason, it's a HUGE pet peeve of mine when people say their in love with people they simply have crushes on. There's a huge difference between having a crush on somebody, them liking you back, you entering a relationship with them, and then maybe, possibly, if you're lucky, you both fall in love. /rant.
What I know is that it's impossible to be in love with somebody who does not love you back (or at least make it seem like they do). In other words, it sounds like the OP doesn't know what the fuck she's talking about. It's one thing to have a crush on someone. Of course they don't have to like you back It's another thing to love someone. Sure, they won't necessarily love you back as it could be a shitty relationship. It's a totally different story when you say you are in love with somebody. I've been in 3 different relationships and I don't think I've ever been in love. I've never felt as though I would spend the rest of my life with any given person, that I would die for them, that without them my world would end, that the best feeling in the world is laying in their arms, and so on. THAT is [only part of] what it's like to be in love with somebody. This chick has a crush on some dude. She thinks she's in love. Are you f*king kidding me?
You can feel love for someone who doesn't love you back... obviously. You don't need someone else's feelings to validate your love. What I do agree with is that you can't feel total love with someone until you know how they are during their worst times, which usually involves getting in a relationship with them and experiencing it together. Until then, it's just a partial love, a half-love. It's unlike a crush in that a crush is infatuation, wild passion for a short amount of time, with no sense of reality. Not knowing the situation, I would say OP /could/ feel love. Yet, at the same time, OP probably has only seen/heard of the dude during his best times, and so has an idealized version of him.
I'm glad to know we have somebody out there who, although never having experienced love themself, is qualified to tell the rest of us what love is. You obviously know everything there possibly is to know about an extremely personal and subjective feeling that you've never had.
Um, because they clearly stated they hadn't? "I've been in 3 different relationships and I don't think I've ever been in love." It's a direct quote from Dr_Pepper's post. Granted, FML makes it impossible to tell who you're directing your comment at because of the poorly designed comments section, so I can understand how you thought I was attacking you.
That's a sad situation. There are a lot of men out there. Get your own boyfriend who will love you back and have a real relationship. Unless their circumstances changes, it's all downhill for you.