Today, I overcame my lack of social confidence and got a date for the first time in 10 or so years. After a while, my date admitted that she's a schizophrenic with dissociative identity disorder. I guess it's back to being single. FML
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Today, I had a date with a man who works as a psychiatrist. He diagnosed me with borderline personality disorder during dinner. FML
Today, after spending 4 years without dating after an abusive relationship, and going out with who I thought was a decent guy for 6 months, I told him I have bipolar disorder and take medication for it. He responded by dumping me saying he can’t date someone who’s “crazy.” Back to putting my wall up I go. FML
Today, my psychiatrist diagnosed me with a personality disorder. So now I have no friends, no job, no love, but I've got a personality disorder. FML
Today, I met someone really cool and their departing words were, for some odd reason, "We should totally be friends, I mean unless you're schizophrenic or something, haha!" I have schizophrenia. FML
Today, I was set up on my first blind date since my divorce. My expectations were low, but when she showed up, she was a smoking hot. She was way out of my league, she was delightful and kind throughout the date, but my low confidence shined through. That night she acquired an expensive dinner and a stalker. Me. FML
Today, it was supposed to be my first date with a girl I've been speaking to for three months. Last night, she revealed that she's still married, that her husband is "not so bad", and then confessed it all to him and blocked me. It was gonna be my first date in six years, after the last one stalked me across the country. FML
Today, during my first date with a girl I've liked for awhile, she tells me about some minor disabilities she was born with. Wanting to be honest with her too, I tell her I'm slightly autistic. Her response was, "I'm sorry this isn't going to work. I can't date a retard." I had to eat alone after that. FML
Today, I saw a psychiatrist for the first time. After telling her everything I'm going through, she looked at me and said "You know… every five years or so I get a case completely beyond my ability to help." I guess it's been five years. FML
Today, I went on a blind date. Sadly, I wasn't blind enough. FML
Today, I got a date after being alone for the past 2 years. The girl who my friends set me up with began asking my monthly income, my current occupation, and asked if I have a credit card account. FML
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poopsi 19
From someone who has extreme panic attack disorder, OCD and crippling depression, this intensifies my worry that I'll be alone forever. I feel sorry for her, to be honest. That was probably really hard for her to do.
unique_freak 17
Because obviously we should immediately discount the possibility of dating anyone with a mental illness, right? Or should she have just lied to you about it for a while first? It was probably incredibly difficult for her to be upfront about having such a stigmatized medical condition. If you choose not to get involved thats your prerogative, but I hope you handled it tactfully at least. If you think it's hard for you to get a date, imagine how she must feel.
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mountland 4
Good, she deserves someone much better than you, someone who doesn't treat her as an undateable freak just because she has mental health issues, I hope she finds someone who loves her as she is and is willing to support her through her illness while not seeing her as broken or less worthy.
Randen_FML95 9
My Dad who married my mom that is Bipolar & Schizophrenic divorced few years prior as for a few of my Dad's friends who also married mentally ill wives. From what I had to experience the last 2 years that my Dad shielded me by sending me to my family every time she pulled shenanigans....It is difficult & frustrating coping with Mentally ill people especially finding help for them. Long story short I recently was able to get the police to take my mom to the hospital after the 3rd or 4th time thanks to complaints from other tenants, the leasing office wanting to evict her, etc. I know it is NOT a person's fault for being mentally ill...but I cannot be around them because I would just be upset & instantly get angry based on my experience.
zach4931 4
Why the hell does that matter. I know someone who has both of those and she is a very good person. It probably took a lot to go out with anyone, and its assholes like you who make it so they feel like they cant. YDI
sabrinaMA 7
lol why is everyone posting their Pitt stories? All I see is I have so-and-so and blah blah blah Oh you think people give a **** to read your attention seeking stories
username356 14
Why do you post your complaints? You think people give a **** to read your whiny comment? People post personal stories in the comment section because that is what it is made for. It it bothers you, don't look at them. It's that simple.
snazzymcwho 21
YDI for stigmatizing mental illness even further and for coming across as a colossal jerk. At least she had the nerve to come clean to you. She deserves better.
cantfixme36 28
Or you could not be an arse and dump someone just for having a mental illness? No wonder you're single. Let me guess, you also won't date girls who are above a size 4 and aren't 5'10 with perfect complexion, otherwise they aren't good enough for you.
username356 14
So you didn't give her a chance just because she is struggling with a couple disorders? It's not like she wants to be that way, and she still deserves to be loved.
ckerane 16
thats harsh. she obviously told you trusting you. Shes probly on medication anyway to controll it
Vesi 30
OK.. Obviously OP can't handle more than his own issues. I have PTSD and DID but mine is a gentler version where we actually work together, are aware of each other and the others do not come out unless it is safe for them to do so, except our Guardian. She will come out to protect us or children. I give them time with the body (2 besides the Guardian) and we all live quite happily with 2, yes, 2 partners: one husband of 20 years and one other male for 8 years, now. Stating she HAS these issues means she is getting help and just wants potential partners to know the issues are there but it definitely sounds like under some control. The way OP posts, it does stigmatize us, but I think the main problem is just that he has his own issues and is afraid to deal with something he's completely unfamiliar with. Education is key, OP. Always.
Vesi 30
BTW.. schizophrenia is a genetic mental disorder while DID is a result of PTSD. According to my psychiatrist, children develop their personality up until age 8 and if something traumatic (like rape, beatings, ect) happens before that age, it usually results in that personality splitting off and a new one starting. That was how I ended up with my two. Both can be handled through therapy and/or meds but it's not something that we choose to have. It's forced on us, just like anything else genetic or through how we're raised. And yes, it does make life a bit interesting. Not all of us come out with negative others.
rocketgurl 15
They're not all crazies! Don't worry OP, you'll find the right person