By Anonymous - 24/07/2013 07:33 - United States - Alpine
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exactly. desperate times calls for desperate measures. just for the sake of diffusing the situation a bit, hopefully she was doing it for good reason like in the example above. sucks that you had to find out in such a manner. she should have told you this a lot sooner but at least she isnt doing it anymore right ? .....that you know of. just dont be to harsh and judge her by her past.
19- that's a pretty... Harsh image of strippers. A good friend of mine strips because she loves it. She does burlesque and loves thinking up creative new performances. I wouldn't mind doing it once I'm a bit fitter again. It isn't just desperate people who strip. Some people legit enjoy the job... Which if they do pole dance? That is one hell of a work out too! I hope you think personal happiness and a job you like is a good reason.
I agree with you, 94. One of my friends always brags to me about how much money she makes in just a weekend compared to my weekly pay. She has 2 little girls to feed so she needs the money. I've never looked down on her for it and I have no damn reason to. A job is a job, be it dancing in a skimpy outfit or doing carpentry. It shouldn't matter.
I don't know the rules of strip clubs but I'm sure you can just dance in a revealing outfit rather than full bare ass naked. Of course you'd get more tips with your lady parts out but I don't know if its a requirement. One of buddies had a little person grab a dollar out of his mouth using nothing but her cooch. I think I'd rather stick a 5 in a g string than that shit happen to me. Interesting story though..
94- what did I say that was so harsh ? I have stripper friends and dont judge them.I actually want to work in the **** industry (calm your ****....behind cameras) I agree that a job is a job and I think that loving what you do is a good enough reason to keep a job. clearly op doesn't agree cus then he wouldn't be posting an fml about it and neither does the wife cus then she wouldn't have felt the need to keep it from op. paying for college was just an example that makes more sense in their situation.....strippers strip. meaning they take thier clothes off. otherwise its called burlesque or go go dancing.
oh and I didnt imply that all strippers are desperate. she clearly isnt proud of her stripping days so there had to have been other deeper motives aside from just loving her job. 116- no one is trying to make it look cool as much your trying to make it look degrading.....everyones gotta earn a livingone way or another.
120- yes the idea strippers are all desperate, that a normal healthy woman couldn't actually want to be a stripper, was what I found harsh. As some of the other comments have shown there is a very negative view of those in the industry. 116- like many people you have been brain washed by your culture that sex and nudity are shameful things. Spend some time in anthropology learning about other cultures where it's seen as a natural positive thing. Most cultures in the world do not share the western/judeo-Christian view of sex and the body. It's seen as something to be celebrated not shunned. Not everyone likes the same things, and some people enjoy stripping. Grow up and get other the fact not everyone thinks like you.
well you gotta get through college somehow, at least its better than being a prostitute
59, prostitution is a lot more than just repeatedly sleeping with one man. You do it with multiple men, maybe even more than just one a night. Girls vags get used, and imagine the thought of having been used for sex. The difference here is that as a stripper, you never have to actually get rid of the bra and underwear, unless you want to. Its breaking rules if you do, meaning its your choice. Also, a good sum of men just go to strippers just to talk, meaning they dont actually have to lap dance. Honestly strippers aren't that slutty
I use to work in a strip club as a waitress and I had to quit because it was degrading for me to watch them be abused. I say that because one scenario was I watched some guys come in close to closing time and were showing some cash, so they ran over there to of course get the last of the money they could for the evening. Long story short, the night ended with them throwing the dollar bills on the floor and making them all scram to pick it up. It was like watching hungry wolves fight over a meal. They said to them, "that's right bitches...pick up that dolla". So between watching that, most of them getting completely drunk/strung out on some kind of illegal substance in the bathroom, or being completely raging lunatics--I only lasted 3 weeks. Oh and the rules of clothing are completely dependent on your state laws. Here the bottoms have to stay on, tops can be off but the nipples have to be covered in some kind of liquid latex.
Yeah I imagine that your wife struggled for money in college, she wouldn't be the only one, and that she is not proud of what she's done to sustain herself (although I'd say fair play to her because it must take a lot of guts to do that so you can afford your education). I'm with #7 on the fact that her not telling you probably means she wanted to forget about it and was maybe afraid you would judge her. Your boss is a dick though. Even if he assumed that you knew about it, he could have been a gentleman and kept quiet about it.