By WELL FUCK YOU KINDLY, MA'AM - 18/11/2012 21:22 - United States - Endicott
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No this is how we end up with asshole men. Which has known to be the 'typical' guy. Mind the fact there's only a handful of decent guys. Kids like him are the ones that give us a bad reputation..
I hate to bring gender into this, but it's sad that we live in a world where "rape defense classes" exist for girls, but there are no "don't abuse girls" classes for boys. Now I'm not saying that every boy is a potential rapist. Of course not! There are plenty of asshole guys on this planet, just like there are plenty of asshole girls too. But there are so many people who have a "boys will be boys" mentality when boys (and men) do things like manhandling or harassing a girl. Unfortunately the parent in the FML is a good example of this...too many kids grow up simply not understanding proper boundaries. It's a shame it's the girls who are taught to "defend" themselves against it, and the guys aren't taught not to do it to begin with.
That's what's called a strawman argument. In Western society, I've never heard of anyone using the "boys will be boys" argued when talking about women being abused. Also, there are classes where children are told about abusive relationships and such; we have such classes at my school. The classes are not specifically targeted towards boys. Instead, boys and girls are taught about abuse, which is as it should be.
90 - There shouldn't need to be don't abuse girls classes and even if they did have them, unless they somehow made them mandatory, only people who wouldn't touch a girl that way would take the class. I just cannot picture a person that would abuse/rape someone think to themselves "I should really take a class to teach me how to stop doing these things".
The whole "boys will be boys" thing is ALWAYS used to defend boys' actions from a young age. A boy is pushing or teasing a girl? He likes her and boys will be boys. He's being mean? Oh, boys will be boys. Women are taught that for a good portion of their life, that boys teasing them, not backing off and respecting them, and other things on that level are just boys being boys and that they just do it to show that they like them. Only when they get to the age where those actions could be interpreted as harassment do people cease to stop using that phrase.
133- What, so boys aren't allowed to push or tease girls now? There's a reason the "boys will be boys" argument is used in those situations: because it's just boys being boys. They also push and tease other boys, so why should girls get special treatment? What you're saying does not sound like equality, it sounds like chivalry.
I'm lucky my boyfriend was raised to respect women. He won't even kiss me without asking first, though I've told him a hundred times he doesn't have to ask. That's because he doesn't want me to be uncomfortable. He is a perfect example of how a boy should be raised. I wish all men were like him. Maybe then my best friend wouldn't have a psycho-ex-stalker-rapist.
I'd teach my daughter to hit back at anyone who treated her like that.
I don't encourage violence, but my parents are the same with the "if they hit you, hit them back argument". Especially with my brother, he used to get bullied, but my mum always said "don't throw the first punch, wait for it, then smack them. " We knew he had it in him because we used to beat the shit out of each other and he got the chance one day, let's just say the bullies didn't pick on him again! Self defense is an excellent skill to have!
In high school my brother was being harassed by one kid and one day the kid got a little physical so my brother restrained him. My brother wound up getting suspended for that. At schools nowadays it doesn't matter if it's self defense, they just expect the kid to sit there and take the beating. It's retarded that schools are discouraging kids from protecting themselves.
She is your daughter, and your responsibility to protect. Honestly, you showed remarkable restraint.
I think this is a part of what's wrong with kids today. No one enforces rules, kids aren't taught respect and they're handed everything. This boy will grow up to be a horrible person.
This is the time where we teach your daughter the ever so helpful "kick in the balls" technique :D
Actually, men tend to keep their groin well guarded when in a physical confrontation. Self defense experts say it's better to stomp on his foot, thrust the heel of your hand upward into his nose (thus breaking it), or slap his ear with an open palm. If you do choose to go for the groin, you should knee him, not kick him, because kneeing is a faster motion which requires a tighter space, and so is harder to guard against than a kick. That one was free, ladies. :D
Jesus... Is this what parenting has come too? Would any of you here on fml be generous enough to shoot me in the face?