By TheFreyzy - 20/02/2015 07:40 - Switzerland
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Hello everybody, here is your Afro OP. First I want to say thank you for all the ones who gave me helpful advise, also this happened a while ago. I wanted to see what you guys write because I felt like I am doing something wrong. Thank you guys who wasn't trying to criticise my girlfriend. She did not throw a tantrum, nor was she mad. Some of you are right, she is insecure and that makes her silent. Well let me tell you guys what happened afterwards so I can calm you all down :) We had sex again and again and let me tell you I am less nervous but I am still not able to cum xD. She understands though it has nothing to do with me disliking her body, we had a calm discussion. Thank you again for everybody who was supportive, to be honest I was shy to post my first FML and I did not expect so many people to comment! I am excited for the next post I will make. Who knows what it will be. Afro is with you all!
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I'm sorry for your experience OP. I'm sure she'll come round and be more understanding.
Not really. Hate to bring up the "society" cliche, but most girls grow up believing that if they can't get their partner to climax, it's all their fault. I had a great sex education, and even when I know it's just because he's tired it's hard not to feel guilty and insecure.
I remember my first time as being quite the same. I felt ashamed at the time, but later found out it was actually just the nerves. Haven't had any trouble since then, luckily. Don't worry OP. Every time you go at it again it's easier. Personally I think most men should hold out until the woman is completely satisfied and only then ****** themselves. What also could help, is a little break. It could be that he became a bit insensitive after a while. Just wait about ten to fifteen minutes and it could be that you will come soon enough. Good luck!
Discuss the matter, try explaining to her what really happened. That's better for your relationship.
And I agree now. I like when we can finish quickly, whether or not we choose to is then up to us. My last partner took forever, and half the time she couldn't finish, due to past issues. I'd spend more than 40 minutes going down on her, just for her to give up. Hard on her and my ego.
That sucks but it still must be preferable to premature ejaculation. Hope she gives you another chance