By Anonymous - 12/12/2011 03:38 - United States
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It's a serious fml when op doesn't care that the man who helped conceive him is dead? This is a ydi, full on. I understand if you have a bad father or don't get along, but when your father dies, you'd be a heartless a**hole not to care at all. YDI, dick
Not true at all. Theres a line that a father can cross that can make you not only not care about his death but actually want it. The whole idea of a biological love connection to someone is the main basis for people staying in abusive relationships with their parents. Fyl op and if your father was shitty enough for you to care about his death than fuck him too
Why should a person automatically feel love for a man just because he happened to screw his mother and get her pregnant? I mean, that's not an immediate right to that child's love. A lot more is needed after that and if this guys father wasn't there, or was just shit at being a father then he's totally within his rights not to care when that sperm donor died.
I definitely think it's somewhat of a biological hormone thing. The connection to your parents is important because they're your protectors/ educators while growing up. For example, if every lion cub felt nothing towards their parents they would leave them as soon as they could walk, which would result in them dying from any number of things.
In some situations, it is easy to say not to care when in fact, you still do. If the father explicitly adds in his will that OP is not welcome, that means he cares a great deal about whether OP will be there or not. If he really didn't care, he would not have written it. Also, if OP really didn't care, it would have been obvious that the grave offense in the will would be worse than the father passing away. But it is not, so even though they probably had a fall-out, in a way both still care (except of course for the father who cannot care anymore). But are too proud to admit.
If you don't care that he died, why would you care that he didn't want you to go to the funeral? Sounds like it was a mutual understanding.
What kind of messed up would put that in their will?! I'm sorry OP, some people just really don't deserve to have children.