An honest relationship is best! She obviously really regrets it.... Now you just have to decide wether to accept her apology..

Well she shouldn't have cheated in the first place. Doesn't really matter how honest you are when you do something like that.

I agree. At least she admitted that she did instead of later on

It doesn't really sound like she regrets it. It sounds like she wanted to wait until he was stuck with her to confess.

But at the same time, she could have married him and then she felt really bad so she confessed

I guess it depends. Maybe she actually regrets it and feels awful and is going to change, and maybe OP is the kind of person that can forgive something like that and move past it, but personally I couldnt. I would get a good lawyer, divorce her and never look back.

She should of said something when it happened. Not act like a selfish bitch and wait until after they were married.

I made an account just so I could reply to you. First that is COMPLETE horse shit, all she accomplished was to make herself feel better for telling you and you feel worse for knowing. Truly an FML situation, so very sorry OP.

Clearly since she cheated on him, it means that she doesn't love him... Not to forget it happend multiple times! Sorry OP but you can't turn a hoe into a housewife... Time to move on

Yeah as much as I hate cheaters people on here are forgetting that the fact that she actually confessed says something. He probably never would have found out otherwise. If your spouse wants to truly be honest with you to the point where they'll admit doing that it means that they actually do care. Cheating is wrong and there's no question about that, but we all have moments of weakness where we do stupid things we regret later. Again, not saying that to say it's okay. I'm only pointing out that just because I've never cheated doesn't mean I have the right to get on a high horse and act like I'm better than everyone cause I've made mistakes, just different ones. If the husband truly doesn't want to be with her anymore I do think he has the right under those circumstances and shouldn't be judged for it, but if he decides he wants to try and work it out that's also something to be admired.

My thoughts exactly

It's great she was honest in time to send back the gifts and get an annulment.

Honesty is all fantastic and great but where was it when she was standing in front of their friends and family saying her vows to him!?

She should have just confessed right away, but be honest: If you cheated on your significant other and regretted it almost immediately after, do you think you'd actually confess right away? Yes that's the right thing to do, but be honest with yourself: you probably wouldn't. It's pretty judgmental to just assume that the only reason she waited until now to tell him was because she wanted to make sure they were already in the marriage first so he'd be less likely to dump her. That might be true, it might not. It may very well be that she was just too afraid to tell him because she didn't want him to leave her so she tried to just keep it secret, but after a few months she just couldn't live with herself anymore. Either way she was in the wrong for not coming clean right away, but again, most people wouldn't have it in them to confess the next day.

And I mad an account to thumb this up. 56 honesty

Pretty much agree with everything Rael said.

Confessing to something doesn't make it ok. If a murderer said sorry for killing your mother, would that make it ok? You're all idiots.

Nobody said it makes the original act okay. It just means that the person is trying to make the right choice now. Cheating is a wrong. Hiding it forever is another wrong. When people screw up the best thing to do is take responsibility and accept the consequences. At least then they've made one right choice. You're the idiot if you don't understand that.

She's 5 months 2 l8 4 dt now he can never trust her again & now hes either stuck with 4 a long time or has to pay a lot of money to get a divorce right after he had to pay 4 da wedding stuff & if they went on a honeymoon he would hav 2 pay for dat

1-800-choke-that-hoe.

Well, I say it's iffy. I mean, she did marry OP and as far as we know, she stopped seeing the other guy. I say a second chance is in place as she could have always not told you and/or continued to sleep with the other guy quite easily, but she didn't. Ofc, do be a bit more watchful, but I say she can redeem herself. Stick in there for a bit.

#3 I was thinking the same thing as soon as I read it , dump that hoe

I ain't saying she's a gold digger..

Look at it this way, you must got a bigger dick than him! Now you have a "get out of jail free" card x3 for the future, plan wisely

I personally don't think cheaters deserve a second chance. If you truly love someone you won't cheat on them so that speaks volumes that you don't truly love the person.

Well personally, I believe OP should honor their marriage vows (hopefully she's not still cheating) and work it out. For better or for worse, right??

Considering OP married his wife under false pretenses (i.e. his wife lied to him), he has no obligation to uphold the wedding vows. Not only that, but "for better or for worse" is not a free pass to do whatever you want that may hurt your spouse.

116, Yes that is an opinion. Plenty of other people will argue that it is very possible to love someone and still cheat on them. I suppose the only way you can validate your claim even with yourself is to have been in a situation of temptation with several partners, and cheated on all of the partners you never truly loved. If you didn't, your opinion is invalidated, because it would suggest you're just not someone who will cheat in the first place.

The last thing you said is exactly right. I'm not the kind of person who would cheat on my husband because I LOVE him, I know what loyalty and fidelity are, and I have some morals. If you cheat on someone, you're saying "fuck you, I care more about my own temporary physical pleasure than about your feelings". You don't give a fuck you like that to someone you love.

Thanks for skirting around the point. I don't care what you do.

Lmao!!

well, you seem to care enough to start an argument and devote your own time to it.....

Leave her

Ydi for getting married. Lol just kidding ;) Hope u got prenup tho

Just depends on how the relationship was before the marriage. I have dated girls where it was agreed upon to be not exclusive to see how things worked out without commitment. But I am assuming that, since OP said "cheated", it was probably thought to be an exclusive relationship.

12 - a good argument but for one thing, she cheated on him just a few months prior to the wedding, this usually implies that they were engaged?! I dunno about you but I assumed that when you're engaged it's pretty a exclusive relationship...

Ignore the last comment, totally misread the OP ;)

If he had found out later what difference would it have made? They would still be married either way. She was a cunt and waited 'til he was stuck with her to tell him...I don't see an upside to being told now...I'm sorry I just don't understand. Maybe It's just something I don't see.

I'm having a déjà vu from the show teen mom...

That's what HE said!

Not really cuz of the whole cheating thing proves dat she's not honest especially if she not only did it once but three xs! And she also marry her without knwing this practically trapped him

Along with everyone else that is.

Don't think he proposed and married her if he didn't really love her

Even if he really loves her (which is kinda obvious, note the whole marriage thing), he is not obliged to try and work it out.

Yea but she obviously doesn't love him

In the wide words of the homeless man who lives downtown. "*cough* "Hit it and quit it...*cough*"

Ummm, sorry but just because they are married doesn't make him "obligated" to do anything. Yes, personally i think he should try to move past it, but no he doesn't have to.

If you really love someone it isn't always that easy to just let them go. I think it was also just a suggestion, not an obligation...

Well yes but I rather knw this b4 I marry sum1 so I would hav a choice to marry a unfaithful bitch

Dear God, Please pick up a dictionary.